Calling on collective wisdom of forum!
11 yo DSD recently diagnosed with Aspergers (pediatrician, speech pathologist and educational pysch). No issues with diagnosis as such because there is something preventing her from reaching full potential. But, from my reading on and experience with ASD, I and hubby, don't agree that it is Aspergers.
Background: diagnosis was done without the professionals having any knowledge that DSD spends 50% of her time in our household (shared custody). So our observations about her were not included in any testing or discussion. The report we were begrudgingly given by her mum has elements in it that we disagree with (ie. talking about behaviors we have never seen). We went this week and completed the pragmatic language survey with speech pathologist. we have also written letter to pead outlining what we see.
In my experience, people within the ASD have issues interacting with others. DSD is a little shy, but has friends, goes over to their places, sleepovers etc; plays sport, has joined school choir and is participating in a mass school performance (volunteered for it). Yes, she does move between friendship groups but teenage girls do that. She interacts with young kids, adults, can read body language and tone quite well.
She is 12-24 months behind in English and Maths but quite talented in sport. We know there is something preventing her from comprehending and retaining information and we want to get to the bottom of it to help her.
But we, despite the professionals' input, don't agree with diagnosis, particularly considering half her life was ignored when it was made.
Whatever the final diagnosis is we will do everything we can to help her.
So, what I guess I'm asking is: does what I've described sound like ASD or am I letting my dislike of her mum and her actions block me from agreeing with diagnosis?