My libido is missing in action big time. To the point that even attempting to think about s*xy things to get myself in the mood grosses me out. Don't think it's ever been this absent.
I know why. I have a teething baby, am unbelievably sleep deprived and am seriously lacking in me time. So when I do finally get bub to bed (and resettled yet again) I'm over it and craving me time. I just want to sleep. I know I felt something like this when DS1 was little too. It passed.
But for now DH is getting thoroughly neglected in that respect, and I don't know what to do to change it. If I make the effort to do it anyway I'm well and truly going through the motions, and to make it worse I'm feeling p*ssed off about "having to" do it when I don't want to, which means I'm tense and can't relax and it ends up being thoroughly uncomfortable - which in turn makes me want to avoid it more.
DH is usually pretty easy going about it all but because we're DTD so rarely at the moment he's like a h0rny teenager. Which makes me feel worse and pressured, even though that's not his intention. I try to just do things for him but he wants his wife to be this s*xy, h*rny woman and I'm so incredibly not there.
Tips? Ideas? What do you do when you feel like this?