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    Default What to do when you have NO libido

    My libido is missing in action big time. To the point that even attempting to think about s*xy things to get myself in the mood grosses me out. Don't think it's ever been this absent.

    I know why. I have a teething baby, am unbelievably sleep deprived and am seriously lacking in me time. So when I do finally get bub to bed (and resettled yet again) I'm over it and craving me time. I just want to sleep. I know I felt something like this when DS1 was little too. It passed.

    But for now DH is getting thoroughly neglected in that respect, and I don't know what to do to change it. If I make the effort to do it anyway I'm well and truly going through the motions, and to make it worse I'm feeling p*ssed off about "having to" do it when I don't want to, which means I'm tense and can't relax and it ends up being thoroughly uncomfortable - which in turn makes me want to avoid it more.

    DH is usually pretty easy going about it all but because we're DTD so rarely at the moment he's like a h0rny teenager. Which makes me feel worse and pressured, even though that's not his intention. I try to just do things for him but he wants his wife to be this s*xy, h*rny woman and I'm so incredibly not there.

    Tips? Ideas? What do you do when you feel like this?

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    Subscribing. I feel the exact Same way and it is such a relief to hear somebody say they feel like this! Thank you!

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    Hmm same! I was like this before ivf but now it's just got even worse!

    I've got no advice but also subscribing )


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    Subscribing because I have been the same for at least 5 years!!!

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    Haha.. No one has a solution yet


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    You sound like me....
    I feel so guilty....

    What I do is do my hair, put my makeup on and throw some lingerie on! When you look good, you feel good.
    The expression on my husbands face when I take my ugly grandma robe off is priceless!!

    Or I ask DH to give me a back rub... then take it from there

    mummy to gods gift to us

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    The anti depressents i am on cause the same side effect...

    Spoke to doctor about it and she said it is good for depression but the medication doesnt make you want it its so frustrating knowing DF wants it but i dont want to give it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by lese82 View Post
    The anti depressents i am on cause the same side effect...

    Spoke to doctor about it and she said it is good for depression but the medication doesnt make you want it its so frustrating knowing DF wants it but i dont want to give it...
    That could be it for me too actually...... The AD's...... Having said them, I would never go off them just to get my libido back so it still sucks

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    The only time I have ever felt like this is when I am on the pill. So my solution was to stop taking the pill and use other contraception methods. If I were having any issues though I would head to my homeopath for some help

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    I'm not sure I can see a way out for you without you having some rest, some sleep and some me time. These are the reasons your libido has dropped, it seems like a pretty obvious solution. Heck, who wants to have sex when they're as tired as ****?


 

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