That is creepy and weird and I don't care what religious spin you put on it.
I know 2 women who went and had an operation so they could bleed for their husbands. And yes here in Australia.
Funny how a mans penis is never inspected.
The whole s.lut vs virgin mentality is weird...to me.
I agree with some PPs:
1. It's objectifying (and insulting) women to refer to it as a gift. Giving the boys something to brag about down at the pub.
2. Your first time on your wedding night? No thanks.
It takes a little practice for it to be any good, I think these people who wait for marriage have no idea. They just think it's going to be wonderful and magical from day one. How disappointing lol.
Erm.. I kind of viewed it this way. Not in the 'prize' sense, but in the 'this is something really important to me, and you are the person that I have decided to trust enough and love enough for it to happen' way.
I didn't wait until I was married, and I'm not still with that 'first' person, but it doesn't make it any the less to me.
To me the first time with any partner is a bit like that, as personally I have only ever wanted to do that when I've been in love with someone. So it's pretty special to me.
I see it in the same sort of way, as recently I let DH read some of my diary that I wrote aged 13. No one has ever ever read it, and I cringe horribly to read it. To me that was a 'gift' in a way, as it said "I love you so much that I am letting you in to the most special and personal thing that I can."
Not sure if any of that even makes sense?
I also don't see it as such a big deal in society anymore and as the years go by it's even less so. I also don't see it as only a female issue, men can be virgins too and it can be just as important to them.
I can see how SOME men would see it as a commodity or a 'prize' which is why something like virginity should be private and not exactly something one should want to advertise....even if you're not a virgin - I don't believe having sex or not having sex should be anybody elses business but yours.
And I HATE how some people's virginity has been taken against their will - it makes me sick that they didn't even have the choice to give it to anybody of their choosing...if they call it a 'gift' or not.
I have a question though. They call it 'virginity' which obviously comse from the word 'vagina'...so why do we call men virgins too? Shouldn't they be called Penisity?
The obsession with it in pron, like its a prize that all men salivate over, irritates me.
But I agree that it means different things to different people, and women should have total control over their bodies. I understand people choosing to wait, and mourning when that choice is taken from them. I completely understand it being meaningful on an individual level.
Its the objectifying of virgins like they are a big homogenous group of innocents waiting to give a man pleasure that bugs me. (So pretty much just the pronified view of it.)
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