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    Quote Originally Posted by Uniquey View Post
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    It always astounds me how every now and then a news article will pop up with some teenage girl willing to auction off her virginity! But what astounds me even more is the men that consider it.
    Darn it! And I gave mine away for free, like a chump, when I was sitting on a goldmine!


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    Well said SAB.

    It means different things for different people. mine was stolen from em and man I would love to have had it to give to someone I loved.

    Not as a creepy thing but as a gift of love...you are the first person I have felt safe with and in love with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BerylsMum View Post
    Well said SAB.

    It means different things for different people. mine was stolen from em and man I would love to have had it to give to someone I loved.

    Not as a creepy thing but as a gift of love...you are the first person I have felt safe with and in love with.
    Oh man, that's horrible

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    Quote Originally Posted by BerylsMum View Post
    I think the question should be..

    is/was YOUR virginity a gift?

    as to speak for anyone elses is creepy and weird.
    Na, I'll keep the question the same, cheers.

    I'm really creepy like that.

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    nah its not a belief I agree with, but to each their own.

    some of my hubbies family are very churchy - his cousin just got married and there was such a HUGE focus in the ceremony and speeches about the gift of virginity - the covenenant taken out between the teenage girl and her parents and then that gift being given to the husband.

    Doesn't sit well withe me tbh - the whole way through there was little focus/feeling about the individuals bodily automony and their experience of their own body. It was like this things called 'virginity' was a possession that the the person was a caregiver of yet other significant ppl in their life had the control/enjoyment/possession of it.

    This was the same for both the male and female as both where virgins.

    I think to each their own, if you don't want have sex before marriage then don't, but i firmly believe sexual expression and enjoyment is an individual thing. If you are waiting, it should be that you are the 'owner' - if you get what I mean.

    It can be shared with a special person/husband etc - but it is about you AND them not about you giving them a prize.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gandalf View Post
    yes, it was a gift to myself that i didn't just shag any and all boys who came around.
    It was a gift to myself that I did

    Jk.

    I do like that - I do agree, it's more of a gift to yourself that you haven't been used than a gift to the other person

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    Quote Originally Posted by Witwicky View Post
    Na, I'll keep the question the same, cheers.

    I'm really creepy like that.
    no need to be rude ww.

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    Quote Originally Posted by northern View Post
    no way! Calling it a gift labels it a commodity, and as someone else mentioned, they can be sold.

    Just another way to objectify women and sex.

    A man being the 'first' is all about male dominance, like putting a flag on Everest.

    Why is it a gift? If you're not the first, does that somehow imply that its less special or important, or that the woman is less valuable as a person?

    Also one of the reasons why I detest Tony Abbot!

    I do agree with you, but remember that many, many males also choice to obstain. Its not just a female thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BerylsMum View Post
    Well said SAB.

    It means different things for different people. mine was stolen from em and man I would love to have had it to give to someone I loved.

    Not as a creepy thing but as a gift of love...you are the first person I have felt safe with and in love with.
    I get it

    It's about choice. You are free to choose whether to view it as a gift or not. You are free to choose to wait or not. You are free to choose whether you want to lose it/give it to someone special or not. The only problem is if the choice is taken from you, not how you want to view it. Picking apart someone's view of her own virginity really isn't nice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buttoneska View Post
    nah its not a belief I agree with, but to each their own.

    some of my hubbies family are very churchy - his cousin just got married and there was such a HUGE focus in the ceremony and speeches about the gift of virginity - the covenenant taken out between the teenage girl and her parents and then that gift being given to the husband.

    Doesn't sit well withe me tbh - the whole way through there was little focus/feeling about the individuals bodily automony and their experience of their own body. It was like this things called 'virginity' was a possession that the the person was a caregiver of yet other significant ppl in their life had the control/enjoyment/possession of it.

    This was the same for both the male and female as both where virgins.

    I think to each their own, if you don't want have sex before marriage then don't, but i firmly believe sexual expression and enjoyment is an individual thing. If you are waiting, it should be that you are the 'owner' - if you get what I mean.

    It can be shared with a special person/husband etc - but it is about you AND them not about you giving them a prize.
    Yes I think it's the last bit that I struggle with. Being prize-like.


 

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