Well said SAB.
It means different things for different people. mine was stolen from em and man I would love to have had it to give to someone I loved.
Not as a creepy thing but as a gift of love...you are the first person I have felt safe with and in love with.
nah its not a belief I agree with, but to each their own.
some of my hubbies family are very churchy - his cousin just got married and there was such a HUGE focus in the ceremony and speeches about the gift of virginity - the covenenant taken out between the teenage girl and her parents and then that gift being given to the husband.
Doesn't sit well withe me tbh - the whole way through there was little focus/feeling about the individuals bodily automony and their experience of their own body. It was like this things called 'virginity' was a possession that the the person was a caregiver of yet other significant ppl in their life had the control/enjoyment/possession of it.
This was the same for both the male and female as both where virgins.
I think to each their own, if you don't want have sex before marriage then don't, but i firmly believe sexual expression and enjoyment is an individual thing. If you are waiting, it should be that you are the 'owner' - if you get what I mean.
It can be shared with a special person/husband etc - but it is about you AND them not about you giving them a prize.
It's about choice. You are free to choose whether to view it as a gift or not. You are free to choose to wait or not. You are free to choose whether you want to lose it/give it to someone special or not. The only problem is if the choice is taken from you, not how you want to view it. Picking apart someone's view of her own virginity really isn't nice.
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