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    Default Separation anxiety at 4 months?

    Hi Mums (and Dads!)I'm wanting to hear about your experiences with separation anxiety in your LOs. I'm a stay at home, first time mum to my 4-month-old DS. Based on what happened tonight, (and one night last week) I'm suspecting that he is already developing some separation anxiety from me, but he's so young! Does this sound like S.A. to you and if so, will it get worse as he gets older? If not, what else could it be? This is what happened on both occasions:My husband got home from work around 5:30. DS and DH have some catching up to do, and I nip out to the supermarket after feeding DS and saying goodbye. I have to cut shopping short when I get a text saying that DS is screaming (he's so not a screamer normally) and inconsolable. The first time this happened, I'd left my phone at home on charge and the only time he stopped crying in 50 minutes (record) was when my husband showed him photos of me on his phone. It happened again tonight, and showing photos of me stopped him crying again. As he flipped through his photos, he came to some of me with other people, and then one of a family member, which I was not in. He started screaming again, and even flipping back to the ones just with me didn't console him. My husband is a wonderful, hands-on father and my son is very comfortable and happy with his daddy. I feel bad for DH because he'd love to spend more time with our son, but someone has to earn the $. I don't think this would ever happen during the day...Anyway, I'd be really grateful to hear about your experiences and stories in this area. Thanks! :-)

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    Yes it does and its totally normal. Some babies only want their mummy. My Dd has been like this since birth and she would scream if I tried to cross the room without her ..poor girl!
    They are so young they really don't understand and worry about you coming back. Naturally its difficult to never ever leave because there will be days you need a time out or a personal appointment will come up.. but basically I have found the remedy is to just go with it and ride it out.. don't try to force separation. Dd has recently become extremely independent and social and has just started daycare a day a week while I work. She has taken to it amazingly with barely a sad look. It won't be long before your baby will be able to understand the concept that you will return.. and will be able to bond with other grown ups. Some babies are super easy going early on and others are more "clingy".
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    Thanks bumMum. Helpful to know how things can pan out in this situation. How old is your little lady now? How did separation anxiety affect sleep, if at all.


 

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