+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 10 123 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 95
  1. #1
    ToughLove's Avatar
    ToughLove is offline Meaner than a junkyard dog
    Winner 2012 - Funniest Member
    Winner 2012 - Funniest Thread
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    996
    Thanks
    121
    Thanked
    1,284
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default How do you politely reject people?

    How would you ignore someone without hurting their feelings?

    DD's school has a gate with a school crossing outside it. The crossing guard is a man in his late 50's, I'd say, and he is seriously THE most irritating person I have ever met.

    Every single time I walk past him to get to the gate, he starts a conversation. And not a "Hi, how was your day?....Oh good, well I'll see you later" conversation, a full blown "Well hello again how was your day? My day was horrid, I dropped my phone and had to call Optus three times, the first time they said turn it back on and I did and it didn't work so the second time I just called my sister first, you'd like my sister, she lives in Melbourne and works at Safeway and she said..."

    Normally I like talking to random people, but he talks without pausing for a response, ignores me when I say "That was the school bell, gotta go!" and when I give up trying to say goodbye and just walk away, he follows me, still talking, until I'm out of hearing range.

    He does this every single day, at drop off and pick up, on the way in and out. Four times a day I have to avoid him.

    I usually have to plan to leave the house at about 2:00 for the 3:15 pick up because I know I'll be trapped in what DH calls the Crossing Guard Loop.

    I've tried pretending to and actually talking on the phone as I come up to him, but he just shouts whatever he's saying so I can hear it over whoever is on the phone.
    I've tried reading a book past him but he taps my book with the lollipop crossing stick and says something like "You didn't even see me here! Must be a good book! I remember I once read a book that... "|and it never stops.
    The first few times I just talked to him, going along with it, but when it's time for me to go he ignores me when I say goodbye and just keeps talking.

    Socially, what is a polite way of saying "Never ever talk to me. Ever"?

    I've considered putting in a call to the council he works for but it seems a bit excessive to complain about an old man whose only fault is that he has nobody to talk to.

    DH got really sick of it early on, and now just walks past and says "Too busy right now buddy" without breaking stride, but the time I tried it he started talking to me about his busy day at the fabric store.

    Help?

  2. #2
    OJandMe's Avatar
    OJandMe is offline I am the strength my children will have.
    Join Date
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    10,123
    Thanks
    910
    Thanked
    1,165
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    geez that's tough. I'd just do what your DH did... and just say. "Hi, have a nice day" and keep walking.. don't turn around, don't stop walking ... and just ignore anything he says.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    178
    Thanks
    6
    Thanked
    74
    Reviews
    0
    Report him to the school ? If he's so busy being focused on talking he can hardly be helping the kids cross the road ?!

  4. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Mummato4 For This Useful Post:

    Boobycino  (25-07-2012),skebn  (24-05-2012)

  5. #4
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Toowoomba
    Posts
    8,747
    Thanks
    2,851
    Thanked
    1,440
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Naww poor bugger! It'd be hard to be 'rude' to such a friendly bloke though but yeh I get the frustration. Probably do what your dh does....no eye contact though...and keep going. He probably does it to everyone so if he doesn't get stuck talking to you he'll probably talk to some other schmuck LOL

  6. #5
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    4,222
    Thanks
    894
    Thanked
    3,219
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    The guy at our school is abit like that too. I walk very briskly so it's obvious I'm in a hurry, say "thankyou" on my way past then look away and keep power walking!

  7. #6
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Posts
    6,095
    Thanks
    399
    Thanked
    747
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    *feels like the odd one out*

    At a previous school, I would stand around casually chatting with the crossing guard whilst my children played on the playground equipment after school.

    When it was time to go, I was focused on rounding up my children, so there was no option to keep talking to me, and thus I never had a problem.

  8. #7
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Posts
    3,757
    Thanks
    1,205
    Thanked
    2,112
    Reviews
    15
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Can you maybe go just on bell time so you have the good excuse of "sorry have to get the kids to class" or "sorry the bells gone I'm running late!".

    If all else fails maybe just try the hard line approach of saying you're really sorry, but school dropoffs and pickups are such a rush and you really just don't have time to stop and chat everyday. Chances are he'll find a new parent to chat to.

  9. #8
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    12,222
    Thanks
    457
    Thanked
    533
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    any change you can enter the school from another street so avoid his crossing ( I know most schools have multiple entries on different streets) even if Its further to park from your kids classrooms ?

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to EmPowering For This Useful Post:

    Nmgb  (24-05-2012)

  11. #9
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    3,037
    Thanks
    1,498
    Thanked
    730
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Don't make eye conatct!!!

  12. #10
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Posts
    8,794
    Thanks
    3,395
    Thanked
    3,081
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I look straight ahead and walk fast. It gives a clear indication that I am not nice to talk to.


 

Similar Threads

  1. How to politely decline listeria foods?
    By MrsStewart in forum First Trimester Chat
    Replies: 23
    Last Post: 02-12-2012, 15:23
  2. How to politely say no?
    By Myztiks#1Fan in forum General Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 19-06-2012, 09:17
  3. Need help from WA people!
    By Mulva in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 21-02-2012, 15:15

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Shapland Swim Schools
Shapland's at participating schools offer free baby orientation classes once a month - no cost no catches. Your baby will be introduced to our "natural effects" orientation program develop by Shapland's over 3 generations, its gentle and enjoyable.
sales & new stuffsee all
True Fairies
True Fairies is the first interactive website where children can engage and speak with a real fairy through the unique webcam fairy portal. Each session is tailored to the child, and is filled with enchantment and magic.
Visit website to find out more!
featured supporter
Philips AVENT Australia
Pregnancy and early parenthood is an exciting and challenging time, but it’s good to know there is expert advice on hand to ensure that your baby gets the best start in life.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!