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    Default When is a relationship unhealthy?

    I love my dp to bits but for months the last 3or more month we just fight alot. I dont think we an go a week with out a big fight. And we have a small argument atleast every secondday. Shes going though a hard time atm shes not happy at work.. She cant find a new job.. Her family is causing her stress. So she is more snappy and moody than normal. I just dont know when its time to move on. I dont want to but it has started to affect my son (ill snap at him or he sees me crying all day)
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    One of my most favourite questions to ask myself is 'how much fun am I to live with?' It sounds like your partner isn't much fun atm. Have you told her calmly and kindly how you're feeling about all the arguing? The best way to open up a calm conversation about this is to pick a quiet time (when your child is in bed) and say 'I feel.... when you.... because it affects me in this way...'

    Does that make sense?

    Good luck with it

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    We have talked about it again and again and again and again... We are both girls who think we are both right.

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    Maybe try something to get out of the rut, even if it's temporary? Like a picnic at the park or something, just to change it up, get some fresh air, and have some fun?

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    If its something you have discussed endlessly then I agree with Bell&Bug. Do something fun together.
    And as for being right... What's more important? Being right or being happy? Don't take the bait, walk away, let it go. If you stop buying into the drama maybe she will back off a bit?

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    How long have you been together? Fair enough if she is stressed but that gives her no reason to fight with you. You don't need to make up excuses for her behavior, moody for 3 months, my husband would tell me to wake up to myself of he would leave

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    Hmm sounds like she's having a rough time at the moment. Is it possible she's depressed? If so then this would be a time she needs you most.
    I know you said you've talked to her but tell her your concerns for your DS and ask her if there's anything you can do to make the situation better, even if it's just listening.
    I don't believe just leaving is going to fix anything.

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    We talked she said she thinks shes depressed.. I just want the old her back

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