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    Default Times like this... When being a step parent sucks!

    I wont go into too much detail but SD said one thing to us about her topic for an assignment and asked us for photos and was given an answer of No as the topic wasn't relevant to the photos requested.

    She went home to her mums and went ahead with the initial plan anywaydoing the assigment hoping to use our pics SD called DH the day before the project was due asked him to help her by emailing photos,
    she had already been told no by me so she goes and asks her dad instead. we did email some that we were comfortable sharing and now all h3lls breaking loose with nasty texts from BM and a sulking SD because were letting SD down !!

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    We dont care about her school work blah blah blah I'm so angry WE Said NO! SD did it anyway and now we are being emotionally blackmailed because they aren't getting what they wanted

    I feel like she asked DH last min so he would give in so her homework could be done on time!

    I might be being petty but do I really have to share everything with BM can't a girl have just 1 THING thats mine and nothing to do with BM

    Am I over reacting or would you have not sent the pics either (I feel played) and now BM is encouraging it by starting arguments over our choices partly because Im pretty sure she really wants to nosey at the pics too :what:



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    You'd already told her no. How old is she? Depending on her age, I'd have refused to send the photos based on the previous 'no' and she would have to deal with the consequences of her homework being late or incomplete.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunnyhugs View Post
    You'd already told her no. How old is she? Depending on her age, I'd have refused to send the photos based on the previous 'no' and she would have to deal with the consequences of her homework being late or incomplete.
    Bunnyhugs: she is 12 and I feel the same way, I felt a little manipulated tbh

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybumblebee View Post
    Bunnyhugs: she is 12 and I feel the same way, I felt a little manipulated tbh

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    Yep, I would be too. She's old enough to deal with the consequences of unfinished homework and I would probably call the school to explain as well so they didn't fall for the 'poor me, my step mother is evil' routine that she would likely pull.

    She can't be allowed to continue to manipulate this way.

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    I'm not sure why the photos are such a big deal? It's not the days where photos cost a lot to print and you need negatives or anything...

    I think it'd make me feel like I wasn't much part of the family if my step-mother told me I wasn't allowed access to family photos.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I'm not sure why the photos are such a big deal? It's not the days where photos cost a lot to print and you need negatives or anything...

    I think it'd make me feel like I wasn't much part of the family if my step-mother told me I wasn't allowed access to family photos.
    I think it depends what the photos were of sass, and if she requested specific ones that op wasn't comfortable sharing with the whole world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I'm not sure why the photos are such a big deal? It's not the days where photos cost a lot to print and you need negatives or anything...

    I think it'd make me feel like I wasn't much part of the family if my step-mother told me I wasn't allowed access to family photos.
    We did send her some that we were comfortable sharing and were relevant to her topic... She replied asking for more of me and the venue etc.

    Im not comfortable with having my photo taken at best let alone share my wedding day pics with BM and the rest of SD's school esp when her project was supposed to be on the town I married in not the day itself.

    We Eloped because we wanted an intimate wedding without the spotlight and attention and 2yrs on I still feel like thats the one thing I shouldn't have to share with anyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybumblebee View Post
    We did send her some that we were comfortable sharing and were relevant to her topic... She replied asking for more of me and the venue etc.

    Im not comfortable with having my photo taken at best let alone share my wedding day pics with BM and the rest of SD's school esp when her project was supposed to be on the town I married in not the day itself.

    We Eloped because we wanted an intimate wedding without the spotlight and attention and 2yrs on I still feel like thats the one thing I shouldn't have to share with anyone.

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    Wtf!? In that case she could have googled pics of the town, if the assignment had nothing to do with your actual wedding day! Def not unfair to say no imo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunnyhugs View Post
    I think it depends what the photos were of sass, and if she requested specific ones that op wasn't comfortable sharing with the whole world.
    This ^
    Its a power point presentation (No thank you) lol

    And BM isnt very nice she even picked apart DD's pics as a new born she just can't help it never has anything nice to say regarding us I already have low self esteem Im not ready to put myself out there yet. It makes me angry and Quite anxious

    But most of all Im really angry about the manipulation because her mum acts this way alot and now SD is trying it too
    Its stressful!

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    Well that makes sense then. Your OP sounded like she wanted photos and you just said, "nope, cos I said so," and that was that.

    If you offered her alternatives, then she should have been happy. That said, she's a child. She doesn't really understand your adult reasons as to why you don't want to share it. Of course she's going to try and get what she wants - everyone wants their own way... it's just that as adults, we're better at understanding that we can't always have things that way.

    It sounds like if her mother was a nicer person, it wouldn't be as big of a deal.

    I'd personally not say anything about it, other than if it's brought up again. I'd just let her know that your decision was final and if she asks one, she better not go and ask the other later, as you guys will find out because you talk, and she will be in trouble. This happened in my household, and I always knew that if I asked one, and they said no, not to bother with the other or I'd get into sh*t for it.

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