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    Default Pregnant with 2nd, wanting to share ultrasound with my DD (15)

    Hi, hoping I can get some opinions please.

    I'm pregnant with my 2nd baby. My first DD is now 15 yrs old. It was just the two of us until she was 10, and I met my now husband. He has 3 chn which I raise, as their mother is ..... Let's just say, can't be bothered raising her own kids.
    I really want to share one ultrasound moment with just myself and DD. I have u/s every fortnight due to complications, so they r quite regular.

    I get the feeling my DH isn't quite happy that I want this moment with DD, and I think he feels like I'm favoring my DD as I don't have any intention on having a one on one with any of his chn at an u/s, however, I have included them all in previous u/s's and intend to have his kids come along to another u/s.

    Does anyone feel that I'm doing the wrong thing by wanting to share 1 ultrasound with just my DD?

    I do everything for his kids. I don't love being a step parent, it drives me crazy, but I do treat my daughter and his kids "fairly" and all the same, come rules at home etc.

    Please help!!!!

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    I think it sounds wonderful. I did it with my eldest dd and it was so special.

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    I think its a lovely idea. Being 15 your DD would be able to understand what a wonderful thing it is to be able to see the baby. It would be a great bonding moment for the two of you i imagine, well the three of you including bub!!

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    i think it is fine.

    my ds is 7 and i often do special age appropriate things with him...i think parents and kids all need one on one time at different things and stages and it should be encouraged.

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    Quote Originally Posted by angenrod View Post

    I get the feeling my DH isn't quite happy that I want this moment with DD, and I think he feels like I'm favoring my DD as I don't have any intention on having a one on one with any of his chn at an u/s, however, I have included them all in previous u/s's and intend to have his kids come along to another u/s.
    Have you tried talking with him about how he feels?

    I personally think its great, I was involved in my mums pregnancy (my half brother) when I was 13 and I found it fascinating.

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