Could you hate a child you have never met in your life, simply because he/she is the child of a person you hate with every bone in your body?
A child you have never seen a photo of, never spoken to on the phone, etc.?
This is my sister. She hates me for all sorts of invalid reasons and because of her hatred towards me, she has become the black sheep in the family. She has no reason to hate me. No reason we know of anyway. If she needs to blame someone for the mistakes she's made that resulted into her current miserable life, it would be my parents and even they agree.
About 5 weeks ago, my worst nightmare became true and she moved back from Europe to Australia.
She has no drivers license, no job, no other income, etc. so she is living with my parents.
My parents have a 3 bedroom house with a 4th bedroom in a detached garage. It also happens to be the laundry and it has it's own toilet too.
Before she moved over, she insisted on my parents putting a keyed lock on her door so she could lock herself in her room when DS and I visit my parents.
She also has a hot plate, fridge, hot water jug, TV, DVD player, laptop with internet, etc so she can live in that room when DS and I stay for a few days. She really really doesn't get out until DS and I are in bed. She doesn't even have a shower as the bathroom is inside my parents house. She just washes herself in the laundry.
She has also demanded me to ring my parents before I visit them, so she can lock herself up in her room first.
She has never seen a photo of DS, never spoken to him, never met him in real life, etc.
Mind you, we haven been in contact since 2006 either. She calls me "a person" instead of her sister. She tells the whole world that she is an only child and has no siblings. Because of this, I insisted on sending her a Christmas and birthday card to remind her that I do still exist. I don't care if she reads the cards or not.
When I was pregnant, I even wrote her a 6 page letter asking her why she hates me so much and why she can't just move on. Ofcourse I never got a reply.
HOW on earth can she hate this sweet little 2yo boy who has never done anything wrong in his life towards her? What did he do, other than being born to me?
She went hysterical and blue in the face and even started to hyperventilate today, when she heard from my parents that she has to sit on the backseat of their car, next to DS when they drive home tomorrow. She needs to go to to town for an appointment and my parents are taking DS for 2 days while I catch up on some sewing work. They live 60km away so it's nearly a 1 hour drive.
I am so worried that she's going to be mean to him. Stir him up and then getting him blamed for bad behaviour
Please tell me I am not the only one who has such a nutter of a sibling?!
I have copped a lot of verbal and mental abuse from her in the last decade and I am near breaking point. I just want to smack her in the face and get her to wake upto herself! She's 37yo for Pete's sake!
Sorry, I just had to vent. It's been eating at me for so long and now that she's in Australia, the situation is getting worse and my relationship with my parents is under a LOT of strain right now