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    Default Husband drunk and driving me insane arghhh

    Hi all my husband is driving me crazy in the last 3 weeks he has gone to the pub once a week sometimes twice today he played football got into a fight with the other team then all the boys went to the pub my husband was there for about 3 hours that I know of i went to pick him up just after 6pm but he refused to come home im pretty easy going so didn't think it was much to ask cause he knew i had to get the kids to bed and go shopping after kids were in bed but he stayed out till 7.30pm came home he went upstairs and spewed and passed out curled up around the toilet then when he woke up about 10pm he expected me to reheat Chinese arghhhhh makes me so mad i told him he's big enough and ugly enough to do it him self and that I'm not his nanny then he gets up me about cleaning he dosent help me with cleaning he said he did this weekend he put clothes in the washing machine and that's it our house is massive 5 bedrooms up stairs 3 bath rooms bar room computer room plus laundry and lounge room and kitchen outside and with 3 kids I don't have much time to myself my husband goes to the gym 3 nights a week 2 nights a week he has footy training footy on saturday or sundays squash one night a week and i decided i wanted a rechargeable mini vacuum for mothers day was ment to sign up for gym since before mothers day but could never get my husband to watch the kids and I told him apart from the house an kids I have no life he told me I choose my mothers day present I'm starting to want to leave him I feel like I could choke him he ****ting me up the wall I have to get up early to put my son on the bus and he doesn't let me sleep so cranky we are now sleeping in different rooms thanks for listening guys vent over

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    Sounds a bit like he is wanting to live a single teenagers life with fighting and getting drunk etc. sorry he is being a poo. You need to lay down the law and give him your side of out all. He may have no idea what he is doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chookylaa View Post
    Sounds a bit like he is wanting to live a single teenagers life with fighting and getting drunk etc. sorry he is being a poo. You need to lay down the law and give him your side of out all. He may have no idea what he is doing.

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    I told him but since he's started his new Job a few months back he has a boss who's single goes to the gym and pub whenever he thinks it's ok for him I've told him he has 3 kids and that but I'm just a ***** so he told me tonight grrr men

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    I don't think his behaviour is acceptable at all. Sounds incredibly selfish. There is no point trying to talk to someone when they are drunk though, I would wait until morning and have a serious chat with him

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    im sorry your having troubles. men can be selfish bum heads. hope you 2 work it out, and if not i hope u will be ok xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by MummyOf2Sweeties View Post
    im sorry your having troubles. men can be selfish bum heads. hope you 2 work it out, and if not i hope u will be ok xx
    Thanks we will be ok men can just be so selfish sometimes but I'm glad my dh is feeling like crap today lol

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    My ex husband was like that. No matter how much I complained about it he didn't care. Thats why we're divorced lol. I hope it doesnt end up like that for you but you really need to put your foot down, his behaviour is totally unacceptable

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    EXH was like that, except he would drink 18 cans of rum a night and smoke 2 packets of ciggarettes a day, both 40 packs. He wasn't like this until after we got married. He always liked his grog though, just not to this extent.

    I ended up finding him repulsive amd hence he divorce.

    I hope he doesn't get to that sort of point for the sake of you and the kids. I'm not sure what advice to offer if he refuses to cut back as my EXH only got worse when I asked him. But definately be strong and make sure he is aware how unacceptable it is.

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    That sort of behaviour would definitely drive me to be standing over his hung-over a$$ shouting. It's not only that he's drinking the way he is, its how he's speaking to you, treating you and the fact that he's expecting you to do all this stuff for him and take care of your 3 kids. You really need to have a chat to him, even if it doesn't get through, if the behaviour continues you can refer to the chat and say you told him.

    I've said to my DH that I WILL NOT be married to alcoholic, and he can figure out that if he decides to take his drinking a new level I'll be walking. Be clear. Be stern. There's nothing wrong with having a few drinks and nights out at the gym/football (sorry I can't remember if you said a sport) but it needs to go both ways. He's got to give in order to get.

    Hope he has a splitting head ache, give your kids some pans to play drums. (I'm mean that way) you'll be okay.


 

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