I think we live in a society that is very me focused. It's all about what WE want. In many areas of life, not just pregnancy.
I'm try to not be a judgemental person, that is not my job in this world. I do have a lot of trouble accepting this and I have my thoughts but I do not know enough about IVF to make a comment and I don't want to offend.
I do want to add that I'm 12 weeks pregnant now. I had a scan last week at 11+3, it most definitely looked like a baby to me, not just tissue.