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    Ok I almost fell of my chair reading this rubbish that some people say to you poor girls.

    I've told my mum I am starting ivf treatment in a couple of month and she is nothing but supportive. it took her 5 years to fall with me and she never managed to give me a sibling. She was the one who told me not to wait too long and is thankful and hopeful about science and the prospect of science eventually giving her a grandchild.

    I told my best friend also which is very supportive and also doesn't say anything inappropriate. She herself had to have 8 cycles of ivf and 5 laps for her stage IV Endo and missing tube and incorrectly shaped uterus. I guess she had this terrible experience and isn't as ignorant as some people who fall pregnant in a blink of an eye.

    Two of my SILs are both medical professionals luckily so no silly comments from them either. I only trust those 2 of my 5 SILs.

    I guess I am very lucky.

    I requested my husband not to tell his parents as they wouldn't understand I think. I also told him not to tell any friends and in particular not one SIL which has 6 kids (pregges with no 7) and is of the opinion that when I expressed my wish for a child that I should reconsider for my step children's sake and she reckons I would also have no time for the child with my corporate careers. She further mentioned a friend of hers going through Ivf and how she would never do this... Easy coming from her with 7 freakin kids lol. But no hubby and I shouldn't add to our blended family of 4 (us & hubby's 2 kids)...
    I can't wait for the day to hopefully tell her that I am one of those science baby mummies she totally disagrees with lol. I hope my day will come.

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    The other day a friend of mine (who knows we have been TTC for 3 years and are going through IVF/ICSI) made the comment that his boss has been doing IVF for 7 years and that he thinks the only reason it hasn't worked for her is because she is 'so highly strung'.

    Hate to think what he thinks our issues are and what he says to others about why we are not having success!!

    I felt like saying she is probably so highly strung because of IVF, not the other way around!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bettie View Post
    MIL told me "well you can't always have what you want in life" and my own mum and sister told me I act like I'm autistic when I do a cycle.
    Tell them to get F$%^&!

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    I've got another one for you I am upset about:

    My best friend seemed angry because I bailed on a dinner party she was hosting as I didn't want to be surrounded by pregnant women and babies as I had a pretty hard on month. Her response was: In our age group you will see pregnant women and babies everywhere - that's no excuse.

    That was just after I told her (as I just found out from my specialist a day before bailing) that I most likely need IVF as endo and PCO might have effect on egg quality and after I just had yet another cycle without ovulation.

    Her partner has many friends with pregnant wives or babies (most of which have several kids) and the last thing I wanted is meeting a heap loads of people that have what I can't achieve so easily after hearing that the next step is clomid (which FS doesn't put much faith in) and then ivf.

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    I have a few related to the same colleague.

    -- I told my one of colleagues that I need IVF and we might not ever have our bio child. I was in tears when I said this. Her response "that's good news, right? You get to try with IVF." Wtf?! What's good about spending money and stress for IVF when ppl can just have in bed to get preg?

    -- after our first cycle, it was a chem pregnancy. I was very sad. She tried to cheers me up with this and that. I didn't say a word and sorta acted angry toward. Well I was angry with the world anyway and was not in the mood. She said "I know you are sad but u r acting like angry at me." Seriously, what was I suppose to do? Happy and smile instead of grieving?

    -- I realised that she isn't the one I should share this journey with so I stopped telling her anything. She did ask a few times when I am doing the IVF again and I just brushed it off saying taking a break. She said "ya good. Sometime people stress and can't get pregnant. then they relax and pop." Ya, if it is that easy. When I finally told her that the preg news. She asked "is this IVF or natural?" Clearly she didn't understand what it is all about. "Is it first try?" I am actually quite confused about the last question. Is she trying to find out if we r using donor? Clearly, she knows we had done two cycles. I stupidly replied saying yes, first cycle.

    -- oh...this one is from my mom when I told her. "Is it your or DH problem?" I said DH. "Oh. Not your problem. "That's good." WTF?! Is it a good thing? What is good about it? You need two to make a baby!

    This IVF journey has put me distance from friends and families. I realise that these ppl don't understand and I just keep it to myself mostly now (other than bubhub). Lol.

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    *pg mentioned...

    Ohmygerd .... So I didn't want this to be my first post ever ... I did try and post earlier today but the internet ate it ...

    What is currently doing my head in ... my office partner. She knows I did an unsuccessful round of IVF and she knows it was not successful (cause she (seriously) asked me "how'd you go?" all casual like - as if I were having a manicure and I said there was nothing to discuss) ... She's got children. And she did IVF ... So here I am with the worst ever AF I've had in forever post failed cycle .... and she complains all day about her pregnancy. All. Day. She's been complaining daily for months - In detail ... I suppose you must forget just how difficult and painful IVF is ...

    Be grateful!

    I find myself shutting her out and keeping her at arms length because attacking her with a stapler her isn't work place friendly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GreyDove View Post
    *pg mentioned...

    Ohmygerd .... So I didn't want this to be my first post ever ... I did try and post earlier today but the internet ate it ...

    What is currently doing my head in ... my office partner. She knows I did an unsuccessful round of IVF and she knows it was not successful (cause she (seriously) asked me "how'd you go?" all casual like - as if I were having a manicure and I said there was nothing to discuss) ... She's got children. And she did IVF ... So here I am with the worst ever AF I've had in forever post failed cycle .... and she complains all day about her pregnancy. All. Day. She's been complaining daily for months - In detail ... I suppose you must forget just how difficult and painful IVF is ...

    Be grateful!

    I find myself shutting her out and keeping her at arms length because attacking her with a stapler her isn't work place friendly.
    Hugs. We will understand if you do attack her with a stapler. 😜

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    Quote Originally Posted by GreyDove View Post
    *pg mentioned...

    Ohmygerd .... So I didn't want this to be my first post ever ... I did try and post earlier today but the internet ate it ...

    What is currently doing my head in ... my office partner. She knows I did an unsuccessful round of IVF and she knows it was not successful (cause she (seriously) asked me "how'd you go?" all casual like - as if I were having a manicure and I said there was nothing to discuss) ... She's got children. And she did IVF ... So here I am with the worst ever AF I've had in forever post failed cycle .... and she complains all day about her pregnancy. All. Day. She's been complaining daily for months - In detail ... I suppose you must forget just how difficult and painful IVF is ...

    Be grateful!

    I find myself shutting her out and keeping her at arms length because attacking her with a stapler her isn't work place friendly.
    @GreyDove firstly welcome to the boards, you'll find lots of support here.

    Completely understand where you are coming from. I Always found it hard listening to pregnant women complain about their pregnancy when we'd been trying so long. Even though rationally I knew they were more than entitled to have a whine I just felt they were being ungrateful. I hope it's not too long before you get the chance to be a complaining pregnant women. Good luck with your next cycle.

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    @ScubaGal LOL ... I'll remember that when she's complaining and I have a stapler within reach

    Thank you @Essence08 <3 ... I suppose its just the total lack of awareness - its not really a lack of sensitivity as I know she's empathetic ... but I swear ... All I hear about is vomit, wee, clothes are tight, vomit, wee, eating, vomit, wee, bra hurts, vomit ... i do not need to know this ... I don't share this with my nearest and dearest why do I want to hear about it at work?!?!?

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    Happy new year ladies!
    I though I'd kick off the year with my rant

    I had a stillborn in October and I'm doing my first FET this month. I was talking to another girl who had a stillborn around the same time I did, about starting TTC again and she said 'well at least with IVF you're guaranteed to fall pregnant when you want to and you don't have to wait month after month'.
    Ummmmmmmm.......
    If only it was that easy!!!!!!

    I seriously think she thought that each transfer is a guaranteed BFP! Seriously! If only she knew each transfer was a $1,500 gamble (plus the rest!!), not to mention the physical and emotional rollercoaster!!
    Argh😡

    Rant over


 

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