Elly_Star - For Real???? OMG some people are in a class all of their own.
kmvw - I get that one too. I thought IVF was just the cool thing to do these days.....
I am rolling around laughing at some of these. Maybe cause I can see the expressions on everyones faces so clearly after people say it.
I also hate it when you tell someone and they say " oh, you can have one of mine, they drive me nuts" No... I want one of my own, otherwise I would just become a babysitter or a kidnapper.
Oh! and the number of people that offer you their uterus. Whilst I appreciate the sentiment, it kind of just rubs in that you can have a baby and I can't.
1. "It's not something I could do - I just think if you can't conceive naturally then you're not supposed to be a parent." We no longer speak.
2. "Have you tried reflexology/charting your cycles/ovulation prediction?" Still not sure how that will improve DH's sperm count
3. "I know it will happen for you - you were born to be a mother" - very sweet, but it peed me off as there are no guarantees.
4. From someone who knew we had been trying for 4 years and had been through 2 unsuccessful cycles - "You guys better start having babies soon, everyone else is either pregnant or got toddlers - you don't want to be left out!"
There are more - thank god for this forum for getting me through the crap times!
It got better: A day or so after our first transfer he sent me a text saying 'congratulations on being pregnant, I hope you have a good pregnancy.' I had to reply explaining that it's now like a normal cycle and I have to wait for two weeks like everyone else. Seriously, I think apart from the weird stories he just tuned out during reproduction at uni! I don't think he has any plans to specialise in obstetrics
Oh that's another one.
"I could just never do it, as it feels so artificial"
My response is usually "Well that doesn't bother me, as my mum had assistance to have me - so if she'd had that concern then I wouldn't exist..."
Sent from my HTC Sensation Z710a using BubHub
My SIL hit a nerve not long after my nephew was born when she inform DH and I that we weren't allowed to babysit him unsupervised as we had not had experience with a new baby before. I didn't bother to point out all the time I had spent with DH's nephews.
And I could just about start a whole new thread with stupid things that parents and parents in law say and do.
When we used to tell MIL than we were cycling and it didn't work she would get so upset that DH had to comfort her instead of her comforting him. Made me sooo angry.
Ooh and ANOTHER one:
After telling someone we're doing IVF:
"And you're drinking coffee?" (pointed look toward my takeaway cup)
Yes. And my FS is fine with that. Luckily we didn't talk about the wine...
hahhahaha love this thread
i love when people tell me( including my fs) you are young and its only to bypass your tubes you should defently get it on your first try THANKS for the added pressure and i have a friend who tells me its ok to smoke while doin ivf mind you she doesnt smoke or drink and trys to tell me all the in and outs of ivf pppffft please she knows nathing !!!
"But you're young!" (from a GP....yes, and I was even younger 2 years ago!)
"A watched pot never boils!" (Um, yeah, it kinda does)
"Just do IVF" (From a friend who knew I was having fertility probs, in the same tone as she would say "just try another store")
"I knew a couple who....." (Cool story bro. I don't care!)
I kept the whole ttc journey from most people so I avoided most of the stupid comments people have to endure, which was a good thing because I am pretty cranky. Even when I got preg my next pet hate was having idiots ask me if I was pregnant which is damn rude, especially if you might want to keep it quiet until the 12 week scan!
A friend said to me when trying for number 2 "well if it doesn't work at least you have 1 child". This irritated me to say the least! Our desire to have a second child was as high as the first.
Pregnant for the first-time?
Not sure where to start? We can help!