my ma hates people crying, like if i cry or the kids cry, she cant hack it. Shes like "stop crying, stop, look at me and stop" or sometimes i see people if their kid is pitching a mega tanty they freak out and do whatever they can to make it stop (im not necessarily talking about comforting...usually angry with a threat or bribery or whatever)
I tend to let my kids feel it out? Ds#2 is quite an emotional person, he gets angry pretty easily, and upset as well, dh's first reaction is to try to find whatever he can to make it stop, i try to comfort, and if that doesnt work, i reassure him im there, but he is welcome to feel it out. Who am i to tell him to not feel upset?