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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    People often complain about how they lose friends after having kids, and I really think that this is part of the reason - they stop socialising with their friends because they find it too much of a bother all of a sudden. If your friend wants to spends time with you, then I'd do what I could to make it happen, or risk that the friendship may die a natural death sooner than you'd like. Make an effort.

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    I'd go to the show but skip the pub. It'll do you some good to take a break and have a good laugh. Is it possible to have a little nap tomorrow?
    Sometimes we've got to push ourselves a little and at the end, we're pleasantly surprised with the good night that comes out of it = )

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    If you really dont want to go, then dont go. I know a lot of those shows finish really late and if you are buggered now then you are going to be extra buggered when the show finishes and its probably not safe to be driving under those circumstances.

    Especially as you have a sick kid who I am sure will be getting up during the night...well if it was me I would stay home. I know that your partner is there but when the kiddies are sick they just want mum.

    Explain to your friend why you cant go, pay her for the ticket and catch up her another day. If she doesnt understand that you cant go as you have a sick kid that would be really disappointing.

    My DS is sick (sleeping on the couch now) and I would cancel if it where me. He was up 5 times last night needing medicine as he was feeling so badly and I would prefer to be home with him.

    There will always be another show.

    At least if you tell her now maybe she can give the ticket to someone else? Besides she is going with a whole bunch people so its not like you are leaving her stranded.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EmyB View Post
    I would absolutely make an effort to go to the show. I don't plan to be one of those mums who lose all their childless friends! My friends make an effort planning things around me and my son when they can, so I really need to make an effort occasionally to go out with them when things aren't that convenient at home. Friendships take work, especially when you have such different lives.

    I figure the more invitations I turn down, the less and less I will receive.
    Agree.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EmyB View Post
    I would absolutely make an effort to go to the show. I don't plan to be one of those mums who lose all their childless friends! My friends make an effort planning things around me and my son when they can, so I really need to make an effort occasionally to go out with them when things aren't that convenient at home. Friendships take work, especially when you have such different lives.

    I figure the more invitations I turn down, the less and less I will receive.
    Not having a go at you but that was what struck me about the OP, her friend didn't ask if she wanted to go... it doesn't sound like planning around anything, just assuming.
    I just know if I had a sick kid and no sleep last night, and an early one tomorrow, there is no way on earth i would drag myself out tonight, esp if it meant driving myself home at 11pm or so

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrsTiggyWinkle View Post
    Not having a go at you but that was what struck me about the OP, her friend didn't ask if she wanted to go... it doesn't sound like planning around anything, just assuming.
    I just know if I had a sick kid and no sleep last night, and an early one tomorrow, there is no way on earth i would drag myself out tonight, esp if it meant driving myself home at 11pm or so
    But she did give her quite a bit of notice about it, and it's sort of a tradition by the sounds of it

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    Quote Originally Posted by AppleIsleSMum View Post
    But she did give her quite a bit of notice about it, and it's sort of a tradition by the sounds of it
    yeah true Its tough managing friendships with friends who have different committments. i totally get what people are saying about working on friendships to keep them going. I was on the opposite side of the coin, I had kids later than some of my friends so I was dying to go out and they couldn't. I remember asking some friends if they wanted to go the moonlight cinema to see Lord of the Rings (we were mutual fans) and (not surprisingly) they laughed when i asked them if their 8mo dd needed a ticket I mean i was *clueless* about the demands of a baby. They explained the issue and we ended up hiring a DVD and ordering take-in

    Jennibear maybe you will get a last minute burst of energy and go, and if not I hope your friend understands.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrsTiggyWinkle View Post
    Not having a go at you but that was what struck me about the OP, her friend didn't ask if she wanted to go... it doesn't sound like planning around anything, just assuming.
    I just know if I had a sick kid and no sleep last night, and an early one tomorrow, there is no way on earth i would drag myself out tonight, esp if it meant driving myself home at 11pm or so
    I agree with you. Priorities Change when you have kids and real friends understand that for a few years they May need to accept coffee catch ups over a night out. I haven't gone out in ages at night. I haven't lost any childless friends. Thankfully they are intelligent enough to understand that since I'm living on a few broken hours of sleep right now, my greatest priority is not going to the pub. Sheesh

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    Id go, and come home after the show.

    You will probably have a better time than you think.

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    I know it's too late now, but as a mother of two I would go! If after the show I wanted to come home I would - but usually I get into the mood and go out afterwards.

    I don't have a choice though.... My DH makes me go, even if I don't want to! I had pnd after DD and developed agoraphobia and even though I'm better now he still worries when I try to turn down invitations!!


 

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