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    Default Going out tonight

    Sorry if this is the wrong place, move if needed.
    So a friend of mine bought me tickets (without asking me) to see 'Strassman' tonight. While under normal circumstances i would be Super excited about it, im really dont think i wana go.
    DD has had a temp since yesterday and we had a very crumby night and DS woke up at 5.30am so im super tired today.
    Im just really not excited about it and TBH would much rather stay home.

    I feel really bad though, shes got the tickets (i will pay her even if i dont go) and i knew about it for about 6 weeks. And also, its sort of tradition, we have seen him 3 times so far.

    Shes organised a group of people to go with us (who i dont know) and shes like 'after the show we'll go out to the pub for a bit'...i SO DONT GO OUT TO THE PUB ANYMORE. She doesnt have kids and she just doesnt get it! Even if i go out i still get woken at 6am (if not earlier) and it jsut sems like too much trouble.
    Am i being silly??

    Help me make a decision please

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    Parenting is hard but you also need to make effort for your friends.
    I hate going out but I still do it to hang out with my bestie she also stays home with me to hang out.

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    no you're not being silly, but when you don't have kids you just don't understand how hard it can be. Just explain to her you're too tired, i'm sure she'll understand, them maybe have a coffee together and have a chat about how things have changed

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    I think you should go to the show and then skip the pub. Explain you've got a sick kid, I'm sure she'll understand. Your friend has bought you the ticket so I think it would be a bit unfair not to go just because you don't feel like it. It will only be a couple of hours and then you can be straight home to bed

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    I reckon the break will do you some good OP Even just go to the show and skip the pub.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrsTiggyWinkle View Post
    no you're not being silly, but when you don't have kids you just don't understand how hard it can be. Just explain to her you're too tired, i'm sure she'll understand, them maybe have a coffee together and have a chat about how things have changed
    I agree with this.
    I stopped talking to a lot of friends because they got angry and couldn't understand that my family comes first and I can't just drop everything for them.

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    I'd go to the show but skip the pub I think you would find you'd enjoy yourself

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    I would go and leave after the show has finished.

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    I would go and make your husband be responsible for the kids. If you really don't want to do the pub, take your own car and go home after the show.

    People often complain about how they lose friends after having kids, and I really think that this is part of the reason - they stop socialising with their friends because they find it too much of a bother all of a sudden. If your friend wants to spends time with you, then I'd do what I could to make it happen, or risk that the friendship may die a natural death sooner than you'd like. Make an effort.

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    I would absolutely make an effort to go to the show. I don't plan to be one of those mums who lose all their childless friends! My friends make an effort planning things around me and my son when they can, so I really need to make an effort occasionally to go out with them when things aren't that convenient at home. Friendships take work, especially when you have such different lives.

    I figure the more invitations I turn down, the less and less I will receive.

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