Ancestory. com will go out of business thats for sure. I can't imagine us all having different surnames, especially my kids to each other, it's abit much for me. Each to their own.
I was so excited to be able to take on DH's surname, and it's not like my old one was bad, or that my new one is good (Appleyard).
I can understand why people don't, especially if they come from a family of all girls or something, but for me it was part of the wedding dream.
I thought I would gladly take on my DH's name until I got married and the name change process became a reality. We've been married 8 months and I haven't done it. We moved, I got a new job etc as soon as we married so I had to fill out tax & bank forms etc in my legal name. Now, the more I think of it the less I am keen.
1. That's my identity. I've been this name for 30 years. I have an emotional attachment to it.
2. I have a professional reputation, tertiary degrees and a career built in that name.
3. I have sooo many accounts, insurances, registrations and records in that name. It's an administrative nightmare getting those changed over.
4. I feel like its expected of me and I can't see why it really matters except for ease of reference or identification as DH's wife.
In saying that, I will probably still do it next financial year when I have a whole year to get things sorted before tax time. Maybe!!
My FIL is remarried, but MIL has retained the surname, she says because it's awesome, because her kids and grandkids all have it (except for 1/18) and it's been her name for more than half her life.
People usually use our actual names when talking about us collectively. We'll never be "the XYZs" anyway because DD will always have a different surname to me... she has her father's surname and though she wants to change it to mine, I cannot do it without her father's permission (or by some lengthy, potentially costly process I'm yet to full understand).
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