Last edited by Witwicky; 20-05-2012 at 14:16.
My maiden name isn't a silly one, its actually a great one (Well to me anyway), it's not common and reasonably easy to spell. I just think it goes wlel with my name. DD has DP's surname, its what he wanted and I don't mind. His surname is a nice surname too, but its increadilbly short. *** short.
DP's name would fit with my name if we got married but its not even on the cards. I love my maiden name and it doesn't phase me in the slightest I don't share DD's name.
Conversely when my aunt, who was originally born and married (taking her first husband's name) in New Zealand, then travelled to Australia, divorced, and remarried another man who wanted to take her maiden name, had a lot more difficulty. She had to change her name via deed poll prior (back to her maiden name) to her second marriage, then her second husband was able to take her maiden name as his married name. She told me the difficulty was that because she came into Australia with her married name, that was the only name she was known as in Australia.
Also, when they went to a family function in New Zealand, a lot of the older family members were most disapproving of her (and her new husband) having her maiden name.
Last edited by sweetseven; 20-05-2012 at 16:40.
I took on DH's surname when we got married because it was the surname our kids have, DH wanted me to take on his surname and I thought it would be nice to all share a surname. I wasn't overly attached with my surname so had no problems giving it up.
Five years later and I still want my maiden name back but it would hurt DH so much so I won't do it, it means more to him to keep my married name than to change back to my maiden name but if something happens and DH and I don't end up growing old together like planned then I'm getting my maiden name back and never giving it up again.
Nope..and I didn't. I didn't like my dh's surname with my first name. I also didn't like the fact that I would be Mrs. A. Surname, exactly the same as my mil who has the same first initial as me.
I am not a big fan of giving up your surname when getting married anyway. I don't see why my identity had to change just because I comitted to my partner. It took me a long time to grow into my name as it was, not way I was changing it once I did. Also, my professional papers are in my maiden name so I am keeping everything the same.
Dh considered taking my name but never got around to it.
This thread reminds me of an egagement notice we saw in The Herald Sun a couple of years ago. The bride and groom's surnames were Phelan & Hiscock.
In the case of DP and his family, they actually believe the children should have their mother's surname... after all, who is the child likely to be cared for by if the relationship were to break down?
That said, DP is also the last option to carry on his family's surname. If he doesn't pass it on, it'll die out. For that reason, I am quite okay with any child we have together having his name. My family are breeders - I have a million cousins who each have several children... my surname isn't going to die out if I don't pass it along.
I would suspect that most couples are grown up and respectful enough of each other to discuss this and then come to a decision that suits them both. If my name wasn't so extremely long on its own, I'd just hyphenate my children's names.
You are no less of a family if you don't all share the same surname than you are any more of a family if you do.
my dps last name is the same from a main characters from harry potter, so i dont know lol
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