When I say respect for tradition, it's not about what our ancestors did, it's about my parents, his parents, our families and our culture. There are parts of old tradition I like, like weddings, walking down an aisle, being given away, and parents and children having a common family name, that's me and how I was brought up and I respect that.
I don't feel like property by doing any of those things and how you perceive women's roles in the past is irrelevant to how I view tradition today.
To the pp, yes it's just a name, a very common family name that even has its own symbol from medieval times, why not mine instead of his then? Because we're traditionalists and it would have been disrespectful to his parents and family.