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    Default Showing some solidarity - DP/DH during pregnancy

    Did your DH/DP do anything during your pregnancy to show a little solidarity?

    We're considering going for bub #2 and I kind of want him to show some support by giving something up and/or making an effort on the TTC front (e.g. Taking his menevit each day - we have some fertility challenges). He's kind of pushing for the next baby but I kinda feel like its all up to me! If he wants it so badly surely it's not such a big ask to do what he can to improve our chances?

    And once I'm pregnant does he really need to sit in front of me with a glass of wine and bang on about how great it is to have a designated driver??

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    My DH has completely quit drinking with me. He feels healthier because of it which is a bonus as well.

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    DH doesnt drink while Im pregnant, and will only drink when Im breastfeeding, if I do (ie wine at dinner)
    Though hes LOVING the leftovers out of the fridge/dodgy lunchbar food that I wont touch

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    Mine would have, if I'd expected him to (he offered). But I said not to bother -- what was the point in both of us missing out on a glass of wine or some yummy cheeses etc!

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    My DH only put on weight with me and lost it with me afterwards!.

    Us women definitely pay a much higher cost to carry and raise children: physically, emotionally, career-wise and often socially.

    My DH would laugh at me if I asked for him to give up anything in solidarity with me b/c I was pregnant, but he is a very good man. He makes dinner every night while I get DD ready for bed, and that helps me out big time.

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    My DH gave up alcohol with me. When we were TTC he took Menavit although the fertility specialist was exactly sold on the stuff helping with fertility. Nothing wrong with it as a vitamin though.

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    I think it's nice to be supportive of your partner this doesn't really apply to me as I spent most of my pregnancy alone but when DP goes on a diet, even though I'm quite slim and have no need to diet, I always make meals that suit us both, will eat healthy snacks with him, give up my monthly chocolate and alcohol.

    I do feel it would be harder for him if I were to eat say a big delicious chocolate cake in front of him, I don't see why pregnancy would be any different.

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    DH always promised if we ever fell
    Pregnant he would quit smoking. Didn't happen. This is our third and I have quit (I smoked through the first two though), but he is still smoking even though he promised to quit. I'm
    Not going to make him. If he wants to he will and no amount of begging pleading or nagging will make him do or not do something if he isn't ready and willing.

    Him putting up with me super erratic mood swings is enough support for me.

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    No, I don't really see the point in us both missing out. DP takes on 99% of the household duties when I'm pregnant so he misses out on enough- like sleep ins and a big chunk of leisure time. I'd much rather he do that than stop drinking.


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    I asked my dh to stop drinking when I was pregnant, especially if it was just the two of us. I actually liked seeing him tipsy at parties as it is usually me who is the one who drinks when out.
    He gave up a lot during my pregnancy as I was so sick so we were really in it together.


 

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