New Mum

[Babymakesthree]

Hi All,

I'm a new mum of a gorgeous eight week old girl who I love dearly (of course). But I never could have imagmined how difficult this whole motherhood thing could be. Don't get me wrong - I knew it was going to be a challenge, but I guess I am more surprised at how I have handled this new life. I am normally a well-organised, down to earth, easy going person and I am a nurse with a little experience in paediatrics, so why do I feel completely incompetent and unworthy and am constantly on the verge of tears??

Everyone keeps telling me to get into a routine - how is that possible with a child who feeds every two to four hours, who refuses to sleep through the day and who cries every time she is put down into her crib??



I thought mothering came instintively and that the moment your child was born you formed an instant bond with her. While I am awestruck and fascinated by my daughter, being a mother can be frustrating at times - I am still trying to figure out what her diffirent cries mean, have become obsessed with how many mls she has each feed and am on edge before each clinic visit, praying that she is gaining weight.

Thanks for letting me vent - while my other half is great and very understanding, I think it's difficult for him to truly appreciate what I am going through.

Kate

[~EmsMum~]

vent away

thats what we all do from time to time

[bronny-jane]

kate your doing a great job

first babies are such a shock to your life style, everything goes out the window...

its normal to feel as though things are getting on top of you from time to time but if your feeling this way all of the time you might have PND, chat with your CHN or doctor about it, and be honest too, its the only way to work through it...trust me i told no one and suffered for 2 years

as for routines, i think babies make their own im not a routine person anyway....so im no help there

but for the crying....its ok to let your baby cry for short periods of time...
my bub will cry if she's put down but i just turn on the vacum cleaner and do my house work and she falls to sleep with in minutes

have you tried putting a radio next to her crib, tune it in between stations...she might like white noise, i know my bub does.

and if you ever feel the need to chat about it, theres always someone on bubhub to talk too.........i hope you start to feel better soon