So im really new to bub hub, but I've been reading through forums and it's helped me out alot through this pregnancy, and was wondering if anyone else had/is going through the same problems I did and if they had any advice on how to deal with it.
So let's start of with, im 19, married and 37 weeks pregnant. Through out this whole pregnancy, I've been bombarded with 'advice' from my hubby's family. He comes from a very veeeeeery traditional family and are very strict on what I could and couldn't do throughout this pregnancy such as not being allowed to ride a bicycle, eat a pineapple, eat ice, be out after 6.30 .. Oh the list goes on. I've mainly had to deal with his aunties, who are very close with each other and have done everything they've asked me to but still I've copped so much flack from them! I remember being 12 weeks and feeling lethargic all the time, and having no energy to do anything so I'd just rest most of the time, I'd get called lazy and that my baby will be a slow and lazy baby. Now that I'm 37 weeks, and due anytime, they say things like "I don't know how your mother raised you, but this is the right way to do it for your child" or "OUR family were brought up the traditional way, that's always the best way for your child, I don't know about you". Through their "advice" too, they always, ALWAYS, have an underlying message. And that is I won't be a capable mother because I am young and really a moron, in their eyes. I am young but, I have got a head on myself, I don't smoke, drink, go out partying, I am currently studying to be a nurse and have had years of experience working with children through babysitting. Im constantly being told quite bluntly what I have in mind for my child in terms of upbringing, food, clothing, basically everything, is plain wrong and stupid and that they know best. To be honest, they aren't exactly the best parents themselves.
Just this week, one of them let her kid stay home from school for one straight week and took her out shopping because 'she felt like it' .. None of their kids are allowed extra curricular activities or playing outside because of strangers. All are overweight because of this and due to the fact that the parents give in to everything the child wants to eat. They swear, have no respect for the elderly and are generally rude. Why would I want to take advice from them? I'm not sure if I'm being dramatic, but would highly appreciate any advice from anyone that has been in the same position as me, because I've just had enough!!