I found out about DH's problem when coming across TAB receipts (up to $100). Sometimes he would come home a couple of hours late, and would always have an excuse like traffic, car trouble etc. Then I would happen to 'stumble' across his phone and find messages between a friend talking about betting odds and tips, when confronting him he would admit that he went to the TAB on his way home, he would provide me with a regretful apology and promise it wouldn't happen again.
So the last time this happened and he swore it wouldnt happen again i told him that i would have to believe him because i had no choice, but if i ever caught him doing it again i would leave him.
Last night he popped out to pick up the pizza we ordered but didnt come home until an hour later. When I confronted him he swore he didnt go to the TAB and that it was closed anyway, his excuse was that he went to the wrong pizza shop because he didnt realise which one i ordered from, i knew he was lying because i confirmed where he needed to go just as he was leaving. I then noticed he spent the rest of the night playing with his phone. This morning i saw his browsing history and it was full of sportsbet pages and betting confirmations.
DH works two jobs to provide for our family and I have just returned to work from being on mat leave, but we are always struggling to keep up with bills. This puts added pressure on him to provide and has now admitted that his thought pattern was to try and double whatever we had left over in order to pay for a bill or do some shopping.
What makes this so hard is that he is an amazing father to our 9 month old daughter, and a wonderful and kind husband to me, we have no issues with substance abuse or violence, we get along really well and love each other to death.
Now I dont know what to do, he is begging me not to leave him and to give him another chance, he just texted me to say he has closed his betting account, he says he is now 110% committed whereas previous times he was only around 70%. The thought of separating our family breaks my heart but is that my only option? I want to do what is best for our DD.
Thanks for reading this far, I'm so ashamed to speak about this to anyone IRL!