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    Default Kids Party Etiquette

    Just looking for some insight from parents, or anyone else who has an opinion on the subject really.

    How do you feel if a childless, infertile couple does not attend your childs party?

    Do you understand that it is probably very awkward for them, and brings up horrible sad feelings? Or does it just come across as rude?

    Also, would you invite this 'couple' just out of politeness but not necessarily expect them to attend?

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    I would only invite people to a children's birthday party, that I actually wanted to be there.

    I would feel really sad that their infertility would prevent them from celebrating my child's birthday, but I would understand.

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    If they were special people in my life I would invite them so they know that they indeed are important to me and my family.

    But if they didn't want to/feel they could come that would be absolutely fine with me. Not rude in any way at all.

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    I agree with Lovey Dovey. I only invite people I would like to come. I don't do courtesy invites.

    Would you then expect them to come to your child's birthday once you are a parent?

    ETA If they don't want to be there, then don't come. I wouldn't want force someone to come.

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    Hmm, well there is a couple of different scenarios but basically if immediate family or close friends didnt attend I'd be pretty upset.

    If it was a party at say a kids play shack and was a party for the 'kid' (so I guess an older kid maybe 4 and up) I probably wouldnt be but say a bbq at home with friends and family I would be upset IF they just didnt come, if they told me their reasons then I would totally understand but I would hope they would come by and say happy birthday at some point (even if not on the day of the party).

    And yep, if someone got an it means I want to be a part of a celebration of DS's little life... I havent had to invite anyone just out of politeness..

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    I wouldn't see it as rude at all. There could be a number of reasons why they don't attend, and I never expect everyone I invite to be able to come to a party. The reasons are irrelevant - its their choice to come or not.

    I don't have family birthday parties though. I've only ever invited children and their parents to my kids parties.

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    I wouldn't care.

    Kids parties are boring anyway. I wouldn't attend if I could get out of it. lol.

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    Hi, I'm part of an infertile childless couple and I think you should invite them. Last year a very good friend of mine had a birthday party for her little one, who I knew really well. She didn't invite us and didn't even tell us. Afterwards she said it was because she didn't want me to feel jealous around all the babies and kids. I felt like I was banished. I would have gone to the party. It might have made me a little sad but that's for me to deal with. I still want to be part of their lives. I felt really excluded.

    I think invite them and let them make up their own mind. If they don't come then it could be painful for them so don't take that personally.

    I just know how I felt. Especially when my other friends were going and I had been invited to other events with the same family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I wouldn't care.

    Kids parties are boring anyway. I wouldn't attend if I could get out of it. lol.



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    I would invite them but make it very clear that if they did not want to attend then that would be perfectly fine.

    As Sassy said, kids parties are boring anyway...

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