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    Default Mom or dad 17 teen dad

    My parents are divorced and live in seperate homes I was wonder who you think I should tell first, Also who me and my fiance should live with. Were 17.

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    You know them better than anyone on a forum will, so a bit hard for us to say on the very limited information you have given us.

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    Mate, thats really not enough info fir any of us to make any sort of informed opinion on. Your going to have to supply more info or make up the decision for yourself...

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    If it was me, i would go to the person i am closer with. But also it is somethinf only you ans your partner can decide, unfortunately this is a stuff decision only you two can make. GL

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    So you are expecting your parents to support you, your "fiance" and a baby?
    Does your fiance work? Do you? are you in school? How are you going to support yourselves? Lots of things to think about before you start a family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hopefulmama2b View Post
    So you are expecting your parents to support you, your "fiance" and a baby?
    Does your fiance work? Do you? are you in school? How are you going to support yourselves? Lots of things to think about before you start a family.
    That's a bit judgemental.You really have no idea why they are going to live with family...maybe they're going to work part time and study and need a roof of their heads while they do this so they can afford their own place. No where in her OP did she say 'which parent should I pick to support us?'

    OP - only you can answer the question you have asked.

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    Hi
    I had my first son at age 17. We told my mum first, then my dad. They are also divorced. I was very lucky to have a great support network around me. My mum and dad were disappointed of course, (no one really expects a baby at 17, I certainly didn't!) but also extremely supportive.
    I was also lucky enough that my boyfriend (who was 19 at the time) was working full time and had a pretty good job as a manager at the time. We lived with my mum until I was around 5 months pregnant; we still paid her rent and saved every cent. We managed to move into our first flat. We bought everything ourselves, from scratch. We didn't take any handouts, hubby just worked hard and provided for our little family.

    We are still together today (I'm now 29 & hubby is 32) And expecting our second baby....

    Like others have said, we don't know your personal circumstances, so can't really advise as to who you guys should tell first or live with.
    All I can say is, save save save, every cent, and try and find your own place if possible. You guys are going to have to learn to be responsible, it's not your parent's baby, yours... good luck. It can be done, I'm proof!
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    I was 17 as well- but there was no way in hell that I'd live with either (in my case mil or mum) we made it on our own.

    Goodluck with whoever you decide!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Areca View Post
    That's a bit judgemental.You really have no idea why they are going to live with family...maybe they're going to work part time and study and need a roof of their heads while they do this so they can afford their own place. No where in her OP did she say 'which parent should I pick to support us?'

    OP - only you can answer the question you have asked.
    I agree with you- i dont have any idea and that is why I asked the questions! I am not being judgemental just trying to help from a mother to a mother to be by explaining that there is a LOT to think about when you bring another life into this world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hopefulmama2b View Post
    I agree with you- i dont have any idea and that is why I asked the questions! I am not being judgemental just trying to help from a mother to a mother to be by explaining that there is a LOT to think about when you bring another life into this world.
    Ok then, no worries!! It just could be read two ways and I read it the judgemental way (probably because I was judged like that at 21 when I was pregnant).


 

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