**Spin Off** Is It Your Partners Responsibility To Make Mothers Day Good For YOU?

[Benji]

I get the "he should appreciate me every day" thing, I really do. I wish all people could appreciate their other half every day.

I appreciate my DP daily. I tell him things to let him know that I do daily, too. As he does for me. He makes me feel amazing, every single day.

BUT

it's still nice to have that one day, just one day a year... where I am responsible for absolutely nothing.

Not a single meal was cooked by me yesterday. Not a single dish was washed by me yesterday. I got to sleep in for as long as I wanted.

I just love mothers day! It's just not practical for me to never do housework or never cook. We'd be living in filth and never eating!

I do the same for him on father's day. I usually buy him a dvd of some sort so he can lie in bed and just watch tv and be responsible for nothing.

[~ElectricPink~]

Yep, I do think that they should. I'm not with my son's father, but he still bought me presents on behalf of our son, which was nice, just like I do the same for him for fathers day.

[Annabella]

I agree Benji. It's not about presents, it's about the kids and partner showing they appreciate all the work we do as 'mothers'. I also think its really important to the kids to see their dad honour and show appreciation to their mother (his wife), yes every day would be nice but doesn't often happen, it's so special for kids to see their dad take on everything mum usually does so she can relax. My kids would be shattered if he didn't make an effort on mothers day (which has happened!).

This year my husband was supposed to go to a work drinks thingy on sat night, he loves these sorts of things but stayed home instead si he wouldn't be slack and cranky for mothers day. That meant more to me than anything he could've bought.

[Girl X]

Why can't we have appreciation and nice treatment every day

AND

a lovely Mother's Day???

I definitely go for both! And don't even get me started on Birthday Week....

[OJandMe]

I think it's the responsibility of the adults in the house to make a choice on which cultural festivals they are going to support as a family, and then celebrate them to show the children why they are celebrating them and how they fit in to the family values.

In our house we choose to celebrate birthdays, Easter, Christmas, Mother's Day, Father's Day... we don't celebrate valentines day or anniversaries except quietly to each other.

So yes, in our house my husband goes to the effort of making Mother's day something that he and the kids make a big deal over... and I go to the effort of making sure I've got a system in place on that day where I have time expressly available to PLAY with my kids

And likewise on Father's day. I put the effort in to make it special for him, and he makes sure that he has something really special planned to do with the kids.

[nice piece of crumpet]

No. I dont expect DH to make "mother's day" good for me nor does DH expect me to make "valentines day" or "Father's day" good for him! These should be happening EVERYDAY.
Birthdays are special. Go all out.
Wedding Anniversaries are an exception and should be "made good" by both. (DH cooks a special dinner for the two of us, I buy him a small sneaky gift. that's it)

Mother's day is a day we appreciate our mum's and reflect on how much they mean to us. WHAT?! there is ONE DAY a YEAR we are reminded about this?
It's a marketing ploy as is valentines day.

We should be telling our mum's we love them all the time.

[SassyMummy]

No, not really.

I think Mother's Day is a bit of a waste of time tbh and am glad that not only did I NOT have to go out of my way to celebrate with Mum or the MIL, I also didn't have a big fuss made over me. I like that kind of fuss for birthdays, but I don't see Mother's Day as that important. A handmade card and some school-made gift from DD is more than enough (and the $2 gift she got from the school MD stall).

[headoverfeet]

Well my partner isn't here to appreciate me in person every day of the year so yes I do expect something for mothers day, this year it was a beautiful gift basket because he wasn't here to give me a sleep in or to make me breakfast in bed or any of those things. It's something we are both working on, showing that appreciation and not just on a day to day basis.

Eta I also agree its about appreciating all the mothers I your life, some of us do a dam hard job day in and day out without any support from family with partners who work away or without partners at all. I think it's important to have one day of the year where we are directly acknowledged for that one day of the year where we dont have to do all those mummy jobs we do every other day I agree the appreciation should happen every day but getting a day off from the other little things is another ball game.

[headoverfeet]

Heres a good description

[delirium]

That is priceless thermo, I had a good laugh at that