4yo mood swings/constantly crying

**Guest1234** · 12-05-2012 12:55

How do you deal? Seriously? Coz I don't think I can.
DD2 was playing with a book. 1 min DD1 doesn't want her to play with it because it's annoying her, the next minute she likes the book and wants to play with it. Resulting in her crying, as usual (all she seems to do it cry!). I ask her nicely if she can calm down and play nice, because if everything is sorted and everyone is in a good mood we might go look at a new house. So she starts crying even more because she wants to take her fave toy to the new house when (if) we move, so I tell her she can take everything with her, and she cries even more telling me to not talk when she is talking. I wasn't, I never do, but this seems to be something she is always crying over and it makes my blood boil.
I've tried calmly talking to her, asking her how she feels etc but it's not good enough.
I've sent her to her room this morning because I just can't deal with this! I'm over the mood swings over nothing and the irrational behaviour.

**headoverfeet** · 12-05-2012 13:26

Might be a silly suggestion but would a talking stick help? Don't answer her until she gives it to you? Something like that..

P.S mood swings, irrational behavior seems pretty normal for these 4 year olds

I hear you! C lost the plot last night because his taco broke he took himself to his room and had a good scream cry then came back out.

**Aquillah** · 12-05-2012 23:07

We are having EXACTLY the same issues.

I keep putting it down to tiredness or overstimulation but he sleeps so well. Melt down city here since Kindy on Thursday. Fun times and glad to know I am not alone.

**bada** · 12-05-2012 23:30

My Dd is four next week and had been in this similar weird phase it seems. She gets very worked up, not constantly like you've described but maybe once or twice a week she seemed to get herself into a real tiz over not much at all. I put it down to some kind of testing the boundaries, something like that and or exploring her own emotions iykwim.

I have noticed if you play into it and get upset in anyway - frustrated or serious or basically respond in way but complete calm, she seemed to feed off it and work herself up even more. Asking her to talk about it only let her get more carried away. Anyway, so my solution was to just not play into it, stay very calm and listen to her but don't respond in any other way but very calmly.

**misskittyfantastico** · 12-05-2012 23:36

I call it the Fu#king fours. I've had two kids (one that's past it, one that's going through it) and it gets my vote for most crappy age ever............so far!

**sweetpeamummy** · 12-05-2012 23:58

Just wrote a reply on my iPad and it ran out of batteries.

MissKitty it is the fu#king fours!! Terrible twos, c threes and the fu#king fours!!! But we love them.

DD2 is 4 and will be 5 in September, she better wake up on her 5th birthday all better or I'm selling her to the circus.

Bell and Bug it is the hardest age yet because they are little people and now they know it. I try so, so hard to say calm and like others have said sending them to their rooms to calm down and think has really helped my DD with her emotions.