lol relax vicpark. Firstly, your not a man either, so based on that you really don't know either. I wasn't tooting my horn I was simply explaining that my marriage is strong and I don't stereotype men that way.
If you wish to see men so two dimensionally, that's your perogative. Just as it's mine to see men as much more complex than that. I just think these kind of beliefs back men into a corner where they feel they have to want sex all the time, or as you (or someone else said, too lazy to look back:P) they aren't men.
You say your husband respects your sexual needs.... then that is case in point. Not all men are just randy cave men. You have one that breaks your stereotype.
I just asked hubby about the never/once every 3 months and here is what he said: (not trying to say his views are the norm)
NEVER- "it depends what stage of life you're at. I'm sure a 70 year old man wouldn't be bothered as much at not having sex."
ONCE PER 3 MONTHS- "it's not ideal, but depending on the circumstance I suppose you could live with it."
GENERAL - "gee thats rather personal stuff you ladies talk about online"
What do your male partners say?
Last edited by VicPark; 11-05-2012 at 21:45.
ad he said..
Its not what holds us together. Sex is not something that works for us right now and thats ok.
I see our relationship as so much greater then just one part.
If one part is not working, then the focus can switch to the working parts. There is so much that is working that I have no complaints!
awww...I fink he wuvs me...
It is a known fact that men need sex more than women due to the amount of testosterone in their body. If you don't get it then maybe you are from another planet. Just because they need sex doesn't make them dirty. It's just mother nature.
For a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone pressure he experiences constantly.
Maybe 2-3 times a wk... But DH would have it 5 x a day if he could! Our sex drives don't match..
No one said sex was dirty, I rather like it myself lol all were saying is that it's a stereotype that all men have higher sex drives, need sex constantly and cheat the moment they don't get it.
and I asked DH if men needed sex all the time or they cheat... he gave me a WTF look, laughed and said who are these people you talk to? lol
Last edited by delirium; 11-05-2012 at 21:56.
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