I just don't get the 'lets rip someone to shreds because she's on the cover of a magazine' deal.
The poor woman.
That's all I can muster up for today because my self-worth and self-esteem and faith in humanity have all fallen through the floor in the last two days thanks to an idiot editor who put the wrong photo of a woman on the cover of time magazine and put an inflammatory quote to go with it.
You're right - we are talking about real people, and with that comes real feelings and real backgrounds behind every one of our opinions.
I guess I just feel that no one has been really mean in this thread. I felt that almost everyone was supporting the woman on the cover. I felt in the minority as saying that I felt confronted by the image, although I tried my best to explain it, and specified that I did not think it was wrong.
I felt that some people (not all) seemed to be dismissing any societal factors in why people might be squeamish about the image, and labelling anyone who felt that way as a weirdo.
And it felt to me that those who were really honest with their feelings (and polite about it) were kind of laughed at / derided.
The comments that accompanied the original article were quite offensive. But I didn't think the comments in this thread were.
And I don't think that I was ripping anyone to shreds either. I've gone to some lengths to say that it wouldn't be my choice, and explaining why, without condemning her for her own choice (the mum on the cover).
It's difficult to have a thread like this if people can't express their opinions though. I understand how some women feel judged when feeding in public, and I understand that as a formula feeder too! But in this thread I've felt pretty judged for trying to be honest with my feelings.
I've said all along that I don't think that it is RIGHT to have those squeamish reactions. I know that not all my responses are perfect. I haven't name called at all. I was just trying to explain why those reactions might be there. That's all.
It just seems impossible to have a discussion about it though... (And I'm not blaming you for that, Benji). I guess it might be one of those threads that I should have just looked at and gone "Noooo... steer well clear..." But I wanted to try to explain from the other side.
Maybelline - I think those are both great posts!
Girl X, I can understand that people would totally feel very uncomfortable looking at this picture. For some women it would trigger guilty feelings towards their own breastfeeding journeys - and many would be very offended at the (magazine editors) chosen title.
There are some who have expressed negativity towards this image that are genuinely misogynistic, twisted and disturbed - those types of people do need to be called out.
There was one very rude post at the beginning of the thread - saying that it was disgusting. I thought that was pretty rude - considering that there were people in this thread, including myself who openly discussed the topic of extended feeding.
Benji - I share your same anger and disgust at the comments posted in relation to this photo outside of BH. I cannot believe such people exist.
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