Okay, so I've gone on about my brother being a twit before. He's basically a big, arrogant, self-centred jerk who thinks he knows everything and is a chauvanist. He tends to like to bait people too - and for ages there he was trolling my (and other peoples) FB walls trying to start fights about everything. Just generally saying offensive, nasty stuff and then acting all innocent when people got shirty.
Anyway, it came to a head a little after the middle of last year. A few comments back and forth, his gf supporting him (she tends to stick up for him even when he says the most vile, stupid things...), blah blah. He told me I wasn't to be in his life, or his new baby's, because I was a horrible person, a bad parent and a bad influence on his baby. Also, DD was all those things too. I saw them at Christmas at Mums (cos we were all invited) and it was awkward and weird and Mum cried. She's openly unimpressed with all of this - though I keep telling her, it wasn't my doing.
So basically, I get an SMS from my brother's gf recently as her daughter's first b-day is coming up... she wants to send me an invite. I message her back a few times, being friendly. Even though she gave me the sh*ts for agreeing with everything my brother said just because he said it, I don't really have issue with her and was trying to build a bit of a bridge there. Esp. since our children are cousins.
I eventually ask, "So, does this mean you guys are okay with me now?"
She said something along the lines of, "You blocked and deleted us on FB! But it's okay. We've moved on. We're over it. We've forgiven you. We want you to come to the party."
I was okay with it when it happened a few days ago, but now I'm thinking, "WTF?!" because why do I need forgiving. I blocked and deleted my brother on FB (she deleted me...) because he was always causing issues on there, and HE told me I was a horrible person and insulted me and my child... and they forgive ME?!
Part of me wants to say, "UM, excuse me? What do I have to be forgiven for? Do you not remember when my brother insulted my child and my parenting ability, saying he didn't want us in his life for fear of leaving a negative impression on his child?"
But then another part remembers my Mum having a cry and how upset she is that her only 2 kids aren't talking and how weird Christmas was, etc... and how I hardly see them anyway, so I might as well just let it go and attend the party and be all friendly and nice for everyone elses sake (incl. DD who recently spent time with her baby cousin when Mum took care of them both).
So should I just suck it up and ignore the fact that it seems like they've laid all the blame on everything on me, and have had the good graces to forgive me for being such a terrible person ()? For the sake of family harmony?