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    Default Parents of Children with Aspergers....

    My friend has a little boy with aspergers and she will post just random little bits about their life on facebook, but generally not anything aspergers specific. Anyhoo, one of the other people who often responds to these posts will say things like 'my aspie likes....' or 'my 5 year old aspie does...'. For some reason, seeing someone refer to their child as an 'aspie' makes me bristle a little. Is this just me being silly?

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    I don't like the way that sounds either

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    I have someone in my friends list who uses that term too, and often posts about what her "aspie boy" does.

    While I don't have an autistic child, I don't think it helps to continually label a child as anything. Yes, they may have aspergers but I'm sure it doesn't define them completely as a person? My DS has a slight developmental delay, but I don't see/feel the need to have to mention it every time, whether to justify why he did/didn't do something.

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    I haven't a actually mentioned it to my friend, who is my bff but I assume that she would be a bit *challenged* by reading that, and would not like to have every aspect of her boy and their life being defined by him being 'aspie'. I'm sure this person means no harm but it just doesn't sit right with me.

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    I mention my childrens autism when i talk about them, if it is relevant.

    However i dont say "my autistic sons" i say " my sons who have autism"

    They are not defined by their dx, but it is important information in most scenarios they face/ i need advice on. So that people know, things that might work for a neuro typical child probably wont work for my boys.

    Having said that im a part of a few support groups, and what u are talking about is very very very common.

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    Im part of alot of Aspergers groups... Aspie when used by "Aspies" is usually ALWAYS used in an affectionate way. Its kind of a way of explaining (without having to explain) that they have Aspergers .. its a nick name so to speak My son was just dxd with Aspergers. .and whilst i dont refer to him as an Aspie, if he chose to call himself that (when hes older) i wouldnt have a problem with that.

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