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    Default My 'sister' the deranged one!

    Well, this is just a vent really.

    My older sister has physically and emotionally abused me since my earliest memory, not just normal sibling fighting but full blown abuse.

    So, now we have had an argument and for once i actually stood up for myself...And now, I'm terrified she will retaliate to me standing up to her. I'm terrified for me, for my son, for my unborn baby... She has no conscience, she would not even bat an eyelid to hit me if my son was in my arms. So now I feel stupid for standing up for myself, because all I have done is punish myself by being too afraid to leave my house instead I'll sit here in tears, not because I have lost my 'sister' but because I feel like I've lost my life again from the fear of her.

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    Can you speak to the police? If she has no conscience then I wouldn't think twice about getting her in trouble with the law, especially I'd you think she might harm your babies.

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    Question: Why do you even have anything to do with her?

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    I'm so sorry you've had to go through this.

    Of my four other siblings, two of them behave in a similar manner, and i have found myself in fear of them many many times. I too say nothing to them due to this fear, but one day i will. I look forward to one day moving far far away and having them know nothing about my life, nor where i live. They are poisonous, vile people. Sorry i don't have any advice, just lot's of understanding

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
    Question: Why do you even have anything to do with her?
    I've always 'kept the peace' to try to make it easier on my family. And probably out of fear. I just keep telling myself this will be better in the long run, she wont be able to hurt me if she's not around... But I'm scared. I feel like a 10yo again.

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    Well, I haven't had anymore msgs since I last posted, and so far I haven't heard from the rest of my family, I don't know if that means she hasn't said anything (which is unusual) or if they arent talking to me I have to work tonight, and I'm scared she will come into my work. I'm sure my fear is much worse than reality (I hope) but I just can't get past it at the moment. I feel so stupid for even saying anything, I should have just shutup and put up with it like usual.

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    Quote Originally Posted by swizzlestick View Post
    I've always 'kept the peace' to try to make it easier on my family. And probably out of fear. I just keep telling myself this will be better in the long run, she wont be able to hurt me if she's not around... But I'm scared. I feel like a 10yo again.
    You shouldn't have to put up with this just for your family. I'd like to think they would understand why you wouldn't want anything to do with your sister.
    I know how scary it is, I fear my father and it was only nearly 2 years ago that I stood up for myself, it felt good and I even cut ties. I still fear him though, when an unexpected person knocks on the door etc. My family don't understand though (probably coz they are too scared of him themselves) so I have ended up cutting them out too (but not solely for the fact they don't understand). It's hard, but it is the best thing I have ever done for myself, my mental health, my relationship with DF and my children. I'm a better person not having to deal with the toxic people that my family is.


 

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