"I'm worried about how your coping since DH passed away"
This is what the girls pre-school teacher said to me this morning.
She was nice and kind and polite and discreet but it still made me feel like $h1t for the whole day.
Her cause for concern was the 'condition' in which the girls come to school & their development.
Her points were:
*They're both always dirty when they arrive (grubby face/hands/cloths from breakfast)
*hair not brushed.
*dirty nappy (sometimes)
*they're 'clean' clothes are stained/sometimes arnt clean
*A has been becoming quiter & more shy
*and nither are showing any interest in potty training yet (they're 25 months)
*a number of times lately I've forgotten to pack they're afternoon tea aswell which was never a big deal before as I know they have ample food @ school.
She mentioned DOCs and manitory reporting and that she believed I wasn't 'neglecting' them, but that I need to seek help etc.
I am already in counseling.
I feel like such a bad mum. I've never been the best mum and I do lack cleaning & cooking skills but I'm really good at loving my girls & teaching them right and wrong, I read to them, bath them every day, wash their hair when they let me, try and brush their teeth, arts and crafts and painting & I'm patient & affectionate and I rarely yell.
But because I suck at stain removal I'm now on the 'watch' list.
If I forget to clean them up I always wipe them over at school before I leave but I guess seeing them in that state everytime has her worried.
I always change nappies right before we leave & check them before I leave them at care. If it's only a wee I don't change them because disposables can hold heaps, should I be changing them? They never get nappy rash.
They girls are so messy & I soak everything. Maybe I need a new washing machine..
I don't know.
How often do you tidy up after your kids? I'm especially interested if you have multiples. I'm looking around the house thinking maybe I am neglecting them