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    I think it's both. A relationship needs to be based on mutual respect, communication etc. But if the connection isn't there, then I think it's harder to do the above over a long period of time.

    As I said, I don't believe in the notion of one soul mate. But I do believe you can love someone and not have that special connection. I had my first love at 16, even moved in with him so it was real love, not kiddie crush stuff. I def loved him, but I didn't know until I got with DH that we lacked that special something.

    edit to add: I don't believe in cosmic stuff. Just that you only find a couple, maybe one person in your lifetime where there is just 'something' totally special above love.

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    I don't believe in cosmical stuff either, nor do I even believe in a soul per se. Until I met DP I didn't believe in soulmates (although had a girlfriend in my teens-early 20s who came really close). But now I do. The connection was instant, it's not work, there's nothing difficult about it. I feel at peace when I'm with him. It's more than just mutual respect I feel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl X View Post
    or do the people who believe in soul mates believe in a cosmic/ divine plan that they were meant to be together?
    pretty much yep. Or at least meant to have crossed paths with that person for a very important part of their growth.

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    So it seems like when people say they believe in soul mates, they mean 1 of 2 different things.

    1) They believe in a rare and special connection that feels like something more than love/ connections they have felt in the past.

    2) They believe that they were destined to be with/ know that person, as part of a cosmic/ divine plan, or as a result of past lives.

    I believe in the first of those 2, but my understanding of 'soul mates' had been that it meant more like the 2nd.

    I do believe in a rare and special connection. But I don't believe it to be mystical. Just awesome.

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    I do believe that people come into our life for a reason, some teach us a lesson we needed to learn or help us through a particular part of our life, some come into life for a very short time and others for a longer time but they all play an important part in our life. I believe that certain people connect with others on a deeper level, in a way i can't explain well - like you just 'get' each other and feel instantly comfortable and understanding of each other. I believe this connection can be with a lover, a friend, a partner, anyone.
    Is this soulmates? I'm not sure but i lean towards yes.

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    I don't believe in a divine plan, otherwise I would like to have a lengthy discussion with the one that devised my plan...

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    I dont think i believe in soul mates?

    I dont know what one really is, but if its about true connection. Then my sons are my soul mates. We are linked forever, and i truly get them, i know them better than i know myself. And i love them more than i thought i could ever possibly love.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    I don't believe in a divine plan, otherwise I would like to have a lengthy discussion with the one that devised my plan...
    Yep that's exactly why I don't believe that it's mystical. In order for them to be meant for you in that type of sense there would have to be something divine controlling it, and I don't believe that's the case.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huni&Coco View Post
    Im not sure if i believe in soul mates specifically... but my dh and i were definitely made for each other. and being from different countries i think its amazing that we found each other.
    op. i believe there is someone out there for you.
    This. DH and I were meant to be. The fact that he moved to my tiny country town from NZ only proves it. We've been together 18 months and married for three.

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    The word mystical sounds a bit silly I wouldn't use that. Not really sure what word for it and to me a soulmate certainly doesn't always have a happy fairytale ending, for me one was a strong connection that ended in a lot of heartache but it was meant to be because there were things I needed to learn. That is/was part of my life plan.


 

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