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    Default Are they really a soul mate?

    I've been thinking, if a relationship ends does that mean they weren't your soul mate? Can a relationship end for soul mates or does the pure definition of the word mean there will be not end and if it does, you weren't truly soul mates to begin with?

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    Call me cynical, I'm not sure I believe in soul mates.

    I think we are compatible with some people more than others.

    I very much doubt if there was only one person we were supposed to be with, that they would just happen to live in your town for example. There would be people all over the world that we would be compatible with.

    If a relationship ends it just means you weren't compatible in the end.

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    I believe that a soul mate is very special however I also feel that you have more then one. I am sure somewhere in the world there is a person who you are most compatible with but I dont think that means you will a) find each other or b) stay together if you do manage to find each other.

    I have heard and known of many people who truly love each other and are clearly soul mates not stay together because they just couldn't get out of their own way to make things work. However I suppose I feel that if you were soul mates you would each change for the other person to accomodate their changing personality but not enough that you actually change who you are...

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    I'm not sure I believe in soul mates either but I do think that there are times when a person if right for now, but maybe not forever. Those relationships can be just as meaningful even if they do burn out, but the lessons that you take from them and the journey that they take you on are what last a lifetime.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveyDovey View Post
    Call me cynical, I'm not sure I believe in soul mates.

    I think we are compatible with some people more than others.

    I very much doubt if there was only one person we were supposed to be with, that they would just happen to live in your town for example. There would be people all over the world that we would be compatible with.

    If a relationship ends it just means you weren't compatible in the end.
    Yup this is what I think too. There's no magical reason two people stay together for the rest of their lives. It's a choice that takes hard work and dedication on both sides.

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    I don't believe in soul mates.
    There are people you are compatiable with and there are those who you aren't.
    Relationships work well when 2 people have the same values, respect for each other and the ability to communicate well.
    I think 75% of relationship break downs are due to lack of communication and the fact that those people's individual needs are not being met (whatever those needs are).
    And the ability to take a step back look at yourself, handle criticism and work on improving whatever area needs improving. (both people)

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    Im not sure if i believe in soul mates specifically... but my dh and i were definitely made for each other. and being from different countries i think its amazing that we found each other.
    op. i believe there is someone out there for you.

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    Oh and the ability to be 100% honest with your partner at all times. No matter what. And not be punished or resented for honesty or your feelings.

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    I do know people who say that their ex lover still IS their soulmate despite them breaking up.

    Why couldn't two people be soulmates but separated because they had to move interstate/overseas? I think it's completely legitimate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    I don't believe in soul mates.
    There are people you are compatiable with and there are those who you aren't.
    Relationships work well when 2 people have the same values, respect for each other and the ability to communicate well.
    I think 75% of relationship break downs are due to lack of communication and the fact that those people's individual needs are not being met (whatever those needs are).
    And the ability to take a step back look at yourself, handle criticism and work on improving whatever area needs improving. (both people)
    Very well said, this is exactly how I feel too.


 

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