I am about to begin an FET cycle, it will be my 5th transfer. As you can see from my signature my first 3 were not successful and my last transfer (fresh) was a chemical pregnancy.
I work in a job that is somewhat physical (though no heavy lifting). Lately I have been feeling really negative working there, not enjoying it at all, feeling stressed etc. I asked my FN and FS if I could try anything different this cycle and, along with a few minor changes in my protocol, they said that some ladies find it beneficial to take time off work for their 2WW. They did stress that this would not be any benefit physically, however emotionally it may be a good option given the way I feel about work right now!
Now, I've thought a fair bit about this over the past couple of days. My FS said he would have no issue with writing me a medical certificate to take 2 weeks off work but I can't help but feel a bit funny about taking 2 weeks of sick leave for this - does it really qualify as sick leave? I am also worried that my boss will start asking questions (my immediate supervisor knows about IVF but the big boss doesn't - he has a big mouth and is quite insensitive so I don't feel comfortable telling him) and that he might start calling the number on the Dr certificate asking for answers as to why I'm having so much time off (in addition to all the sick days I've taken for 2x EPUs and 4xtransfers). Can my employer do this or does he have to take the certificate at face value?
To really throw a spanner in the works my husband is going away for work (overseas) during my 2WW and it would be an option for me to go with him if I took the time off. But...when I start thinking about doing it I feel guilty for taking the time off as sick leave then basically going on a holiday. I pointed this out to FS and his response was "it might be a good thing for you to do that and be distracted and relaxed rather than working a job you're not happy in and feeling down because your DH is away from you".
I think it's more of a moral dilemma for me than anything else and I'm really just after your opinions as to what I should do/what you would do. Any advice appreciated.
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