DS1 is four. He's a great kid. He's also a spirited kid. He's the kind of kid that if he has trouble getting his jumper on he's likely to get angry at his jumper for annoying him. He's the kind of kid who if you ask him not to do something (like pull his brothers legs while you're carrying him, or roar in your face like a dinosaur) you will likely have to keep asking ten times a day for a month or more before he gets it. He's a very strong willed, opinionated, sensitive little guy.
Since DH is at work during the week I'm the main one who he sees discipline coming from - don't get me wrong, i make sure I compliment, encourage, show him other ways, explain, play etc but I'm also the one saying "Hey! Don't pull the dogs hair!" etc. I'm also the one enforcing consequences and who's also busy with the baby.
Result? I get told - a lot lately - that he doesn't like me anymore, that I'm a mean mummy (tonight it was because I asked him to get his own glass of water as I was in the middle of something with his brother), that he doesn't want me, doesn't need me and even occasionally an "I hate you!" thrown in for good measure.
Now realistically I know that, to him, it probably means little more than getting angry at the jumper that's hard to put on and that I should let it wash over me and focus instead on the dozen times a day he tells me he loves me.
But it gets to me, it really does.
And all it takes is a little thing then, like him telling me he doesn't want to play with me and I get upset. Not mature perhaps but I love this kid so incredibly much and his comments lately sting.
Have you ever been through this? How did you handle it?