I am brand new to this forum and I thought I would start from the beginning.
Hubby and I have been married for 4 years and since this time we have had quite a difficult time with family issues, I became sick, financial problems ,etc.
Over two years ago we started TTC and to date we have not had one "almost" at all. I have had all the usual tests and so has hubby but we are apparently "fine". There is nothing wrong with either of us which I know is really good but at the same time it isn't as we/Dr's have not idea what is going on. I have tried all the alternative therapies - Iridology, herbal medicine, acupunture, chinese medicine, naturopathy and believe it or not I went all organic too. We are on all the appropriate vitamins and take care of ourselves.
So with all this and more we are now moving on to IVF with the advice of our FS.
However, I am struggling with some issues. I don't want to take away from everyone else on these forums and the awful things they have had to go through to get a family but here goes..... My hubby is really good and tries his best but my mother and father are making me feel so pressured about giving them grandchildren. They make off the cuff comments like "hurry up and give us grandchildren" or "if you don't have the money for IVF we will pay for it" and many others. It is nice of them to offer financial assisstance but I feel it is for all the wrong reasons. My brother moved OS a few yrs ago and now he has kids but he has been going behind my back telling our parents that if I can't give them grandkids he will move back to Aust and he feels guilty for moving away because I have not given our parents grandkids. Pressure is all I here when they speak to me.
Why are they making all MY TTC issues about them when in fact it affects me and hubby? I am not sure how to deal with all this and I wish that they would keep their opinions to themselves!!!
All of this is making me feel like what Hubby and I wanted 2 yrs ago has now turned into something that everyone else wants. I feel like it is not for us anymore.
Is this crazy?
Sorry for the very long story.
Please help with advice anyone where you can.