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    Default Birthday Party 1st

    Hi Everyone,


    Our DD is 1 in a couple of months and I wanted to see how you tackle a birthday party when you come from large families. I thought this would be the best place to ask.

    Who do you invite etc?

    We dont have a lot of money at all and sadly are both from massive families and I am unsure where to draw the line on invites.

    I would have my mum (step dad cant make it), dad, dads gf, brother, sister, BIL, nan, granddad.

    DP would have his 7 brothers and sisters, mum, her DP, dad, Step mum, his sister baby, aunty, grandma, pop, his partner.

    Now thats just the very immediate that are closest and no friends.

    I really want our neighbours next door as neither of our parents live near us they are like second parents to us and there would be 7 of them, plus my 3 other grandparents.

    So that makes 35 people in just the immediates.

    Excluding friends and any other fam.

    But I am so worried that if I leave it at that, my aunties and uncles and cousins etc would complain and get cranky.

    I am honestly scared that with all the people who would complain if not invited etc our list could be 100 + people. And only 11 would be friends. The rest would be fam.

    This isnt anywhere near do-able if we have to pay for anything.

    How would you tackle it? Any advice? Its really hold me back starting to plan and I am a little confused by it all. I know I have a big family but so does DP.

    =\ =(

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    I would invite them all to bring a picnic/BBQ to a park to celebrate with you and just provide a cake

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thermolicious View Post
    I would invite them all to bring a picnic/BBQ to a park to celebrate with you and just provide a cake
    This is what I would do as. Or provide sausages and bread and ask all invited to bring a plate to share.

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    When faced with the same problem for one of our kids 1st, we had 2 celebrations: 1 for family and 1 for friends and neighbours. It was byo alcohol & we provided home made dips, party food for kids and had it at 2pm-4pm.

    Also, if anyone asks what they can get for DD, suggest gift cards, citing that she already has a lot of everything (that way you can choose stuff you need and not get a lot of stuff you don't want).

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    We just done ours on the weekend. We had a joint first birthday/christening and had around 50ppl we has sausages on the bbq and salads... So much food got wasted. You don't need heaps. Ask family to make salads and you can get sausages maybe. Start picking up little bits and pieces each week leading up to it so it's not an all in one expense

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    To keep costs down, have the party late afternoon, and just provide nibbles rather than a full lunch. You don't need to provide softdrink, cordial is enough. Premake it in jugs to serve. Some cheap and effective party food is jelly cups, cupcakes, cookies, slices. Sausage rolls and sandwiches for savoury. If anyone asks if they can bring something, accept their offers. For decorations, lots of balloons is enough, and at that age you don't need to do lolly bags, but if you want to, a cheap alternative is a bag cookies, just make smaller cookies than usual!

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    Sausage sizzle at the park, grab some balloons a cake and bam you have a party

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    We always ask DHs family to bring a plate (mine live overseas), then we just do enough food for us and our non-family guests. We have over 50 people in our local close family.

    I get a few boxes of Solo etc... when it's on special and then get 2 big dispensers of water (Frantelle usually) and add cordial to one. Fizzy for adults, cordial and water for everyone.

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    I would do the park idea also and a sausage sizzle.

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    Make a list of food you need and ask everyone to bring something just tell them with everyone having such big families you just cant afford to feed everyone so it would make it easier for you I'd do a BBQ snag on a sandwich with onion and just have nibbles cheese salami biscuits dips


 

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