Well we have progress! Baby is almost head down - head is nowhere near engaged and bum is a little further left than it should be. It's not transverse but not cepahlic either - kinda halfway between (on the diagonal). I texted my middie this morning letting her know how anxious and upset I was getting and she came over a couple of hours later to check and also have a bit of a chat. I'm under strict instructions to not do anymore moxibustion or breech tilts and to stop poking and prodding the poor baby's head (I've been doing it almost obsessively).
So while it's not 100%, it's a damn sight better than being breech. it stays that way and continues to keep edging around into a better position. I'm bouncing on a swiss ball as I type and am about to go for a walk with DS to keep my pelvis moving.
Thanks so much for the support everyone - I'm prone to having meltdowns and really needed a space to just let out how distressed I was feeling. It helped enormously and I'm going to try and remain completely positive about this VBAC