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    Default *spin off* - When did you first leave your baby with your partner?

    After reading the thread about leaving a baby for the first time I was curious as to what others have done in this regard. I now realise that there is likely to be a variety of thoughts on this, so please keep it nice - hopefully we can provide our own experiences without being judgemental about other people's experiences (or am I being naive?!?).

    In my case, I left DD with my DH very early on for short periods of time - I think the first time was when I went to a post-birth physio class run by the hospital when she was about a week or so old. After that, I would regularly leave her for an hour or so while I got things done/went for a walk etc. In our case I think it helped my DH find his feet as a new father and feel more confident in his parenting abilities. And for me, it meant a much needed and appreciated break.

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    I agree with you completely and I had the same approach. Poor DH was never going to get comfortable with the baby with me hovering over his shoulder all the time! Definitely great for guys to have that time alone to develop their own bond, and I think it's also important as it shows him that you have faith in him too.

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    It was never a noticeable thing, I'd think while I showered in hospital and he also took them for their hearing checks. I ran to the shops on my first day home without the baby.

    My husband's totally capable.

    I have a friend going back to work PT at nights, her son is 6mo. She's worried, her husband's scared. I think they need to be very involved independently from day one.

    I made bath time DHs thing, he bathed them in hospital and has done ever since, it gave him confidence.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    It was never a noticeable thing, I'd think while I showered in hospital and he also took them for their hearing checks. I ran to the shops on my first day home without the baby.

    My husband's totally capable.

    I have a friend going back to work PT at nights, her son is 6mo. She's worried, her husband's scared. I think they need to be very involved independently from day one.

    I made bath time DHs thing, he bathed them in hospital and has done ever since, it gave him confidence.
    My DH also did the bathing in hospital and when we got home - it meant I was terrified of bathing DD when she was a newbie as I had no practice!!! I rhink this time around I will make sure I get a chance to do some bathing too

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    Two days old he took her for a medical thing for over an hour, apart from that it wasn't until she was a few months old and only briefly.

    I will try to leave him alone with number 2 from the start this time.

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    From early on...DD1 was about three weeks old and I went to get some eggs from the shops. I wasn't gone long but it wasn't that I didn't trust DH, it was that I didn't want to leave her!
    DD2 was 3 days old, I took the dog for a walk and DS would've been young too...I was happier to go for a shop run without strapping three kids in the car so I left him with all three.

    DH has always been perfectly capable and I've never worried about leaving him alone with the kids. My struggle was only ever that I didn't want to leave them.

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    I generally don't until after 6 ish months when they're on solids. I demand breastfeed so if they want a feed, they want it now and are very unpredictable. Having said that I'll pop down to the shops once they're in bed etc.

    Df and I are happy with this. Df still has plenty of confidence with our boys, I just believe my little babies need mummy. Df was stay at home dad for 3 months no problems when ds1 and ds2 were 3 and 18 months.

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    I left DS with hubby from very early on, for little things like showers, nap, etc. I was feeding EBM anyway as BF normally was too painful so it was fine

    He is a very hands on daddy he has bathed DS every night from day one, changes nappies, feeds, rocks to sleep if needed, plays etc. he got the hang of it all pretty quickly

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    From birth. For only short periods at first (because i breastfed so they couldn't be away from me long) then longer as they got older. They are now 2 and 3 and DH has had them for long periods alone (up to 3 days).
    We are both the parents so we both take an active role, DH is more than capable of looking after his children alone so i have no issue leaving them with him. It's also good to give them time alone starting early as it gives them time to bond and make DH a more confident parent.

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    Straight away. He's more then capable.!

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