please help me!!!!

[Threadkiller]

I'm at my wits end my kids don't ever listen to me they they are 16 (17 this month), 15 and 7. Its mostly my 7 year oldim sick off it, its happened the worst in the past few weeks

[Zombie_eyes]

I dont know how to help you im sorry.

Do u have clear consequences set that u follow through with every time?/consistency?

[Threadkiller]

Yes I do but it doesn't help :-/

[austmum]

Do you have anyone to back you up? Sometimes if my kids aren't doing as I ask and not respecting me my husband who is a lot tougher than me, will give them a talking to and take over punishing for a little bit.

[bokkie_wotwot]

Have you tried

*taking away personal possesions?
*moving there mattress out of there room so they have no luxuries?
*making them fend for their own eg make them do there washing,lunch,dinner?
*no tv/computer for everyday they are disrespectful?

*rewards for when the right thing is done?


Some may think im harsh but i think im fair. I know how stressful things can get and i haven't tryed all them things i have suggested as my oldest is only 5.

[SuperGranny]

hi threadkiller, ( strange name lol ) , I wonder why your 7 year old is the worse, when you have older children?? Is the younger following the pattern from the older children, pretending to be a minnie adult?? Or is the younger one just being allowed to get away with it because he is the 'baby' ?? Maybe you just need to change your method. Instead of having to repeat yourself, just say it once, and then follow through with some consequence. When my kids where teenagers, grounding worked fine. I was the only way they could go anywhere, so it was school and only school, for a couple of weeks if necessary. I also agree with withdrawing your services, no washing, no cleaning, no cooking. There is no right or wrong method for this sort of situation, but if whatever yo are doing now is not getting the results you want, then you need to change tatics. hugs Marie.

[Threadkiller]

Thanks everyone I will give some of them ago :-).
And yes that is part of the reason, she things she is older then she is gahhh