Then there is the flipside where people come back to find their child sitting on a strangers lap and snuggling in crying and calls said stranger a pervert in front of a whole shop or comforting a child...
Is it any wonder that we are so averse to helping out other peoples children? I really feel for the men in today's society......
when we were young...
when i was young ,
I walked to the shop on my own
I played outside on my own all day
i walked to and from school
my car didnt have seatbelts
my trampoline, no net.
i played in the street, at my mums work.
i wandered the streets to the park.
i was left at home, in the car, in the ikea ball pit , at the park.
i was fostered out for neglect.
i was neglected..passed on as independance.
i am not saying that all parents who foster independance are neglectful...i just do not like the 70's and 80's held up as proof it works..
we are the biggest users of anti depressants and therapy , yet!!
It has less to do with how crap our parents were, and more to do with Medication and Therapy becoming more and more socially acceptable and readily available....
Well, my parents were pretty vigiliant... so they were pretty much the same as I am. I am the same age as you are too Mum2EandR, so it's not about growing up in different times either (or places... I spent my childhood living in various states thanks to being a RAAF kid).
Despite my parents apparently helicoptering me, I didn't feel terribly attached to them in the clingy sense, nor do I shudder with fear when thinking about being on my own. I think their supervision didn't do me any sort of disservice at all... but I will point out I was never molested, never broke a limb, never had a "close encounter" with a pervert/abductor/etc. Their supervision paid off IMO. Of course, all teh supervision in the world can still not prevent some things from happening... and certainly parents aren't the cause of their children getting molested/attacked/abducted/injured/etc in all cases... but hey, I figure a bit of supervision of children who are still not old enough to read extremely well, or don't have hte cognitive ability to judge situations accurately, etc is probably more beneficial than not.
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