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    Quote Originally Posted by smileygirl View Post
    i'd explain that she can sleep there and that you'll keep the kids out till 8am...but affter that the room is their playroom

    she needs to contribute $50 a week for food

    she needs to keep her stuff packed away so the kids don't get into it

    the bathroom will be used at 6pm for the kids bath

    you are not running a hotel...she has to fit in with the family or she cannot stay!
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    you guys might change your mind if you see it!!!
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    A few ideas:
    Let her stay but don't make her too comfortable.
    Tell her you need to use the room in the day for the kids so she has to get up in the morning (or be woken by the kids playing)
    Tell her you need to use that bath at night so she can use it after the kids or in the morning to bathe
    Maybe charge her rent after two weeks. Might be best to mention that upfront. That will hopefully motivate her to find somewhere else. Make sure it's market rate or close to, so it's real motivation.

    I'm the same. I say yes to family but often wish I hadn't

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    Seeing the photo does not change my mind, she can sleep in there quite comfortably on the sofa bed.

    I would not charge for food because she is a guest and she is family. I would never charge people to stay for a few weeks at my house and I would be offended if someone, especially family, tried to charge me(I would buy food off my own bat and meals out as a thank you though).

    You need to make it clear that it is for a couple of weeks only.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BerylsMum View Post
    you guys might change your mind if you see it!!!
    Hasn't changed my mind...

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    I agree with everyone else, except charging her. She's family so no need to kick in for food IMO. But her toiletries or alcohol, etc she can pay for.

    As for the room - looks great! Can I come to stay too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MamaC View Post

    As for the room - looks great! Can I come to stay too?
    Do you want a roomie?

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    I agree with everyone else. You can't be expected to have a guest area available for blow ins who have used you before! I know she's family, but some family aren't always capable of not being selfish, so I would keep my guard up if she has a habbit of using you/breaking boundaries.

    8am to 6pm kids using the playroom is a good rule. With her suitcase packed up and out of the way. Explain the bathroom is used for kids bathing when she arrives and so nothing can be left in there either for safety reasons. I don't know if she would ask, but I would say no if she asked to go continue her sleep in your room instead for the day. I'd make a joke like "just think of staying with us as a way to get back to a normal persons body clock.. har..harr"

    I wouldn't ask for food money etc for 2 weeks. However, she is broke, and coming in from overseas, so she obviously doesn't have her own place to stay if she needs to stay with you, so is it really realistic that she is only coming for 2 weeks? What is her plan after that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Do you want a roomie?
    for sure!

    I also agree with TLT, what's her plan after two weeks?

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    welll

    she doesnt have any plans...
    she is 40 and has never really had
    a job.
    she has only ever lived with me or a boyfriend.
    she works on weekends at the markets and she gets money as she has lupus.

    she has taken advantage before. we were in thailand together and i paid for us to share a room at the resort..

    she racked up at $300 room
    bill and has no money to pay it so i had too.


 

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