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    Default Pleas help me Bubhubbers..I need boundary help FAST!

    All my best decisions have been made with bubhubber help..

    so here I am again..
    My older sister called me last night, she is in Bali and is coming home...she has no where to go and no money can she come here?

    My heart sank.
    we have just moved and we are trying to get organised...but I said yes.

    So she is going to sleep in my playroom. Its a huge room, think double garage size. It has a sofa bed and foxtel and all the kids toys....it also has its own bathroom with spa...

    so my question is...what am I obliged to do?
    last time she stayed she paid nothing and stayed for 6 weeks..this time she says 2 weeks.

    I dont want to pull all my toys out and have to live in a mess.
    is it ok to leave it as is and she can use the bed...
    she likes to sleep all day and that means I lose the playroom.
    I bathe the kids in the spa bath..as its huge..we have another but its smaller.

    so do i suck it up and risk her staying..or what?
    I am not going to make it into a room or clear cupboards....

    help me guys I need to set boundaries, she arrives at 8am.

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    Nope don't move the toys, make her too comfortable and she will stay longer.

    I would definitely be asking her to pay for food. If she can fly to Bali she can help you with food costs.

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    Yeah she has to fit in with your life.. She is staying in you play room, can't be sleeping in there while kids would normally be playing in there. If you bathe your children int he attached bath, She will have to put up with you doing that still.

    The other Idea is to put her in one of the kids rooms and let them have the treat of sleeping in the play room. She may not get as comfortable sleeping in a kids room.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnyflower View Post
    Nope don't move the toys, make her too comfortable and she will stay longer.

    I would definitely be asking her to pay for food. If she can fly to Bali she can help you with food costs.
    This. She is only staying for 2wks, i am sure she can live with toys around for 2wks.

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    i'd explain that she can sleep there and that you'll keep the kids out till 8am...but affter that the room is their playroom

    she needs to contribute $50 a week for food

    she needs to keep her stuff packed away so the kids don't get into it

    the bathroom will be used at 6pm for the kids bath

    you are not running a hotel...she has to fit in with the family or she cannot stay!

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    Don't move toys and keep using it as you otherwise would. Give her a heads up about when bath time generally is etc, but other than that she can fit in. She's a guest, but an unexpected one so while she can be made to feel welcome, don't pander. Especially if she is liable to overstay.

    We've just moved too so I know that whole post move 'still settling in' phase well. It doesn't suit visitors.

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    I would also leave it as a toy room. Explain to your sister that the room is the only place she can sleep and will have to remain the toy room for the kids. Then you can send in the kids in the morning if they (and you!) want to! Guests shouldn't complain, you are accommodating her after all! 😁

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    Live your life as you normally would. She can crash there or not it's her choice. After all your the one doing her the favor.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loving6 View Post
    Live your life as you normally would. She can crash there or not it's her choice. After all your the one doing her the favor.
    I totally agree - if she wants to sleep all day then she shouldn't stay with a family with three kids!

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    She's not a guest, she's 'Aunty'.

    Leave the toys, keep the kids out early morning, but 8am sounds like a reasonable time for them to be allowed in, let her know that you bath the kids in there at night too, so please don't leave her things out in the bathroom. Don't charge for food, she's broke and family.

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