I guess my point was that those things are inconveniences, and yes - either done intentionally or displaying a gross insensitivity/ lack of consideration - but my point was more that they are not constantly happening to you with no way of a break. If someone is pressed up against you/ continually touching you then there is no way of asking them to stop (if it's weight related).
It probably wasn't a great example. My point was more that there is no getting away from someone who is constantly touching you because of their size. I find that more intrusive/ more of an invasion of a personal space than many other aircraft inconveniences.
What I was trying to get at is that I found it odd that so many people seem to be saying it doesn't matter, and that people should put up with it. I was trying to think of other examples of things that (a) represent someone taking something that you have paid for, and (b) make you feel horribly uncomfortable that you wouldn't put up with.
It's not really about whether someone means to do it or not. To me there is nothing personal or 'obese bashing' about the situation. It's just that I don't want anyone (whatever size) pressed up against me for hours on end, and I don't think it's reasonable to suggest that I (or anyone) should put up with it.
Haha - just realised how that sounded. Sorry, DH...