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    My cat is my other baby. People are allowed to feel how they want when they have experienced the death of a loved one, whether human or animal. I really don't see the issue, unless someone is directly comparing their loss of a pet with the death of someone's child.

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    Grief is grief. And everyone's grief is a personal thing. No loss is ever like another.

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    I would never describe the feeling as 'like losing a child' because I have never lost a child, therefor I have no idea how it feels.

    I have said 'Losing my cats was like losing a family member' because I have lost family members and the pain was just as intense, if not worse because I had to hold them in my arms as they took their last breath (my cats that is). I have never, ever felt pain like I did that day. I can think of my nan that passed away a few years ago and not cry, but thinking of my cats, as I am now, brings tears to my eyes every single time. The pain and hurt is still there. I miss those annoying little ****s every day.

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    When my little baby Valentino (a chocolate Burmese cat) died, I was completely morose and totally heartbroken for two weeks, I'd owned him for three years. I miscarried at 9 1/2 weeks a month ago and I'm still crying off and on. The grief I felt at my cat's death isn't even comparable to the grief I feel at losing a baby.

    The loss of a pet is, however, completely devastating and is a loss of a loved family member which is upsetting and you might say "he was my baby" and that's fine but if somebody came up to me and said "I know how you feel about your miscarriage because my dog died", then I would seriously have to refrain from punching them!

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    Why should we judge other people's grief based on the worthiness of those that have died?

    Here, I'll make another comparason.

    Losing a baby isn't anything like losing a grown son who has died in war from an agonising shot that took days to kill him.

    Now, if you've lost a baby, you'll ark up and say no way, that isn't fair, they're both precious to someone and it's terrible that they've died!

    If someone says that the pain they feel over their 18 year old childhood dog dying is the same as losing a baby, then who am I to judge them?
    "Sorry, no, it's not. Your sadness isn't valid. But if it was a newborn baby it would be"

    People who say it isn't the same should be fully ashamed of themselves and hope that Fate doesn't take it as a sign that they need a hard lesson about manners and compassion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    Grief is grief. And everyone's grief is a personal thing. No loss is ever like another.
    That is true, but I would never in a million years liken the death of my cat who I had from preschool to the end of high school, who I picked out myself and then from that day until the day he died he slept in my bed, snuggled with me on the lounge and was all around the coolest cat ever to the death of someone's child. I would never tell someone I know how they feel when their son died because my cat was put down a few years back and it still makes me sad to think about. Because its not the same. I loved Banjo, truly I did, he was my beloved pet and at the time I called him my baby. To liken his death to someone who has suffered a stillbirth, neonatal death, serious illness of a child etc is insensitive. Besides since when is it appropriate to compare losses?

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    Quote Originally Posted by elleandsam View Post
    Besides since when is it appropriate to compare losses?
    Facebook it would seem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinnieMouse81 View Post
    Sorry becandabub I wasn't directing the comment at you at all! I actually added that because a friend of mine likened the loss of the family dog to another friend's miscarriage and saw a link to the OP's question
    Oh no no, your post just made me see the original question differently!! So thanks!!

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    there is no comparison ..just my view

    Unless you some how gave birth to your cat/dog
    Last edited by Maybelline; 24-04-2012 at 09:34.

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    Sometimes people say the wrong thing when they are trying to empathise. In saying that, nobody has a monopoly on grief and sadness, it's different for everyone but everyone feels it.

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