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    Default How do you feel about people who liken the death of animals to children?

    Like posting in fb groups and on their wall thst losing their cat was like losing their son?

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    I can understand. Not everyone feels this way, but for some people their animals are as much a part of their family as - well, their family. I've had my dog longer than I've known my DP & if/when he dies, I will be unbelievably upset, for a long time I am sure.

    I don't see it as lessening the value of a child to that of an animal - more elevating the status of the animal. Pets change lives just like kids do.

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    It makes me so angry that my blood boils, and then I remember they must not have ever lost a child so they have no idea how insentive they are being.

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    I would be devastated if I lost my precious cat. However, I would never try and be empathetic towards someone that has lost a child, insinuating that I know how they feel. Grief is valid in either case different on intensity and should not be compared.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinnieMouse81 View Post
    I would be devastated if I lost my precious cat. However, I would never try and be empathetic towards someone that has lost a child, insinuating that I know how they feel. Grief is valid in either case different on intensity and should not be compared.
    I did not consider it like this - & of course I would never tell a parent who had lost a child that I felt the same because my dog had died.

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    Sorry becandabub I wasn't directing the comment at you at all! I actually added that because a friend of mine likened the loss of the family dog to another friend's miscarriage and saw a link to the OP's question

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    Someone said to me that my son being in NICU and me not being able to have him on the ward with me was exactly like when they took their dog to the vet and he had to stay overnight. No it's not the same, or even kind of like it, not even close.

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    Some people say that losing a pet is like losing a family member, but to liken it to a child seems excessive.

    I believe all grief can be quite shocking in its intensity, particularly in the early stages. Is this a recent loss? My guess is they're in a lot of pain. I'm sorry if what they said hurt you.

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    I would say that losing a pet (for me) is like losing a member of the family, but it does not compare to the loss of an actual family member AND I would never compare a loss of a pet to a loss of a child.

    To some people pets are their babies (as they have no children) and for them there may be no greater loss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elleandsam View Post
    Someone said to me that my son being in NICU and me not being able to have him on the ward with me was exactly like when they took their dog to the vet and he had to stay overnight. No it's not the same, or even kind of like it, not even close.
    I've had similar to this my daughter had major hip surgery and a 'friends' dog was getting desexed the same day. When I was talking about walking out once DD was asleep and ready for surgery was one of the hardest things ive ever had to do - she said she knew how I felt!! My friend couldnt visit my DD in hospital because she wouldnt leave her dog (we were there for 3 days).

    Ive had my dog for 6 years, he is a big part of my family but I could never compare him to a child!
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