What next? Feeling overwhelmed and lost

**sunnyflower** · 23-04-2012 19:57

**hopefully2** · 23-04-2012 20:59

Huge hugs. At least he left peacefully. That's good.

Going to see a counsellor is a good idea. You need to be the best version of yourself for your little ones.

I wish I had all the answers for you about what to tell the little man but I think it's just important that he knows you both really love him. Put his dad on the phone for chats and arrange that he sees him to keep things as normal as possible.

Xxxx

**october** · 23-04-2012 21:08

Sorry I just saw this thread and I think you've recieved

**october** · 23-04-2012 21:10

..... Some really good advice from
Hopefully2. I agree with looking forward when you can to one year into the future and imagine how life might be, that might help with the harder times

**Mummabearto2** · 23-04-2012 21:35

Thank you all so much. I'm going to try and stay positive and will re read this thread to remind myself of all the wonderful advice I've received so far.

**MeetTheBluths** · 25-04-2012 12:03

Good luck honey and good for you for having the courage to do what you know is right! Hang on to that courage and you'll be fine. It will be hard at first but picture a better future in your mind - one with options - and hang on to that picture and you'll get there! X

**2Bboys** · 13-05-2012 04:51

How are you going mummbear?

Hope all is ok.

**Mummabearto2** · 13-05-2012 17:41

I'm hanging in there thanks!! I'm having good and bad days still. Kinda feels like two steps forward, one step back a bit. I'm trying really hard though to focus on the positives but it's hard some days when the loneliness sinks in. I'm going to my first mediation appointment this week on my own and then I think we have a joint one after the ex has his first appointment on his own. I'm hoping once we sort out property split and the parenting plan I'll feel alot better as at least I'll know where things will stand financially. We already have a plan for the kids it's just a matter of getting it in writting. Today was hard as it was my first mothers day just me and the kids and to make matters worse its my bday on Tues and I really wish it wasn't. For some reason these occasions just make me feel even lonelier! Ok no more sooking from me

**hopefully2** · 13-05-2012 18:49

I think u r doing remarkably well. I think it's important that you plan your bday to make it really special. Bake bday cupcakes with the kids and decorate. Happy bday for Tuesday. Hope it's a fabulous start to a wonderful year!

**Mummabearto2** · 14-05-2012 21:30

Well after telling my DS that it was my bday tomorrow he has put his order in for cake and ballons lol!!! So it looks like my DS has talked me into marking the occasion after all.